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Difficulties dating in metro
"People meet, people fall in love, get married ..." - sung in a popular Soviet song. Now the same principle for dating somewhat different: people meet, get to know people, and there too it will ... But for it came to "get it", it is necessary to carry out a key step in the logical chain-event, you need to meet. Since a large part of our modern life and, therefore, potentially romantic meetings held in public transport, in particular, in the subway, you must highlight the issue of familiarity in the subway. And due to the fact that girls often do not need to make special cunning effort to meet with young people, you just speak, the situation will be illuminated dating a young man with a girl.
Judging by the large, of Hamburg, and to some more high quality account, a fundamental difference in the strategy of dating in the subway and in any other place not. There is only a certain foreign specifics associated with the scene. Thus, the underground is almost always (unless it is not about the latest trains going past midnight) this place cluster large numbers of people, so that the privacy of dating can not be counted. You have to be prepared for the fact that most overcome the oppression of the fact that an attempt to meet with a girl becomes the property of at least a few close people. As to what the girl herself unable or unwilling to engage in a conversation when so many witnesses, and even in the not too comfortable sound environment - because in the subway for the most part have to move to higher tones to the source anything heard.
Practical advice
The rest of the experienced people give the same advice the classic, the chief of which sounds, at first glance, paradoxical - do first, and then think. The catch here is that when a desire to meet immediately born feverish and painful meditation: how to approach and what to say? Especially these intellectual flour becomes pronounced when the young man carefully examined, and the forest in order to remember all those formulaic phrases in this case full of all pickup
Terms pickup: gently but with persistence
forum posting. There really is possible to find a number of phrases to start the dialogue that soon, probably will have to issue a separate special dictionary. However, most of them are not original, are doomed to recognition as a home-made and almost always result in failure: something like "Girl, we have a lot in common with us - that's the way, in the same carriage ride ...". However, this does not negate the fact that a sufficient number of them are highly original and highly effective.
However, many thoughts that would say or shuffling in the memory of the most suitable of these "ready-made approaches" often leads to the fact that either missed time (as in the subway, where she could get out of the train at the next station, the time factor is crucial) or the desire to learn is destroyed there is doubt and fear of appearing ridiculous, stupid and even absurd
. Therefore, experts recommend: if the girl liked the less thinking more of naturalness and spontaneity
. In this case, the main thing to start dialogue and the necessary and appropriate in this particular case, the words come by themselves
. Of course, very likely, and almost inevitable scenario in which the right words and will be found and familiarity frustrate
. However, you need to understand: First, familiarity is a category where there can be no assurance that seem witty and interesting to one person, it will be perceived with hostility by the other; Second, the principle of the transformation of quantity into quality as yet has not been canceled, the chances of a positive result is always greater than the one who came to learn, than in those who it did not dare
.
With practice, each person develop their own system, based to some extent on observations at some instincts. For example, some are advised to pay attention to the subway in the first place to those girls that are easily and safely go to the contact "eye to eye" - most often it means that it is not currently located in the heavy meditations on the problems of life and open for dialogue . In general, it remains only to reiterate the central tenet: be yourself and do not be afraid to act. In the subway, where the time allotted to attempt to discover, is an unknown quantity, it is of particular importance.
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