3) You have different hobbies

Yes, there was a time when both of you are happy with all the revised series "Sex and the City", stayed on campus when traveling, and ordered pizza every evening Pizza: features Italian cuisine   with mushrooms and Italian sauce pikachcho. Your thoughts are magically matched, you inhale and exhale in unison, and every minute spent apart was definitely lived in vain. But now, after three, six and nine years of living under the same roof, your favorite holiday was leaving to go fishing, and you at this time to send friends to the party. In the supermarket, he spends hours in the department for motorists, forgetting you at the counter with amenities. In the evening you watch broadcast CNN in the original language of the satellite, and it focuses on the issue of same news format NTV.

For many women, a divergence of interests is a symptom indicates that marriage is like a sick child, we need to show the doctor. Postpone the thermometer and take a pill, which returns you to reality. People change, what's wrong? Do not you really want to spend my entire adult life with someone who is exactly the same as it was when you met? And he wanted to he the same?

In its 32 Dima, my business partner, owns his own business empire (mine, if you think about it, is very interesting work!) .  Naturally, it takes control of the majority of his time .  Therefore, rarely falling on his share of free time he enjoys as a student, to play billiards with friends .  This exasperated his girl Olga .  "She likes to snowboard, - patiently explains to me Dima - and it would be great if she did it at the time I spend with my friends for a pool table .  But no, instead she stays at home .  And when I get back, I met a reproachful look, because it seems that those few hours I could (ie, read, was, you know her!) To spend with her " .  Oh, Olga, I really know! Fortunately, with her I do not work .  So the fact that in spite of such a home reception in particular (and Olin character in general), Dima still continues to play billiards, does not mean that it is less fond of the girl, or is no longer embedded in the relationship, as we often seem to such situations .  Everything is much simpler: sometimes an apple - it's just an apple and Dime just like billiards and society of his friends .  At the same time he loves only Olga and lives only with her .  Dot .

In this world, everything - including everything that happens between you - respect. If you never spend time together, well, it really can mean that your relationship is necessary to show the family doctor. He'll prescribe you vitamins Vitamins for everyone   and reminds that free time - one of the areas of relationships, which can (and should) be discussed. For example, if the Dime so necessary battle for billiards with friends, he would invite then Olya for lunch (it is suggested that I not a doctor, because besides here that troubles are a great couple and a family doctor they obviously useless). To celebrate his victory: of friends and small quarrels over their relationship with Olga. Which is really worth all the billiard games in the world.

4) You have less sex.

Let's be honest: the desire passes. And it would not have been a problem if our culture did not convince us constantly that in each bedroom on the planet clothes passionately frustrated, and each pair on this earth (and even abroad) has been a stunning sex all my free time. And exception to this celebration of life - you and your beloved.

And, of course, the good news is that the desire to come! Then he goes back, and then ... Well, you know .  My one Ruslan (yes, fortunately I have many friends of men who could interrogation!) He tells me: "We are with my woman often discuss sexual issues .  Once it anymore and we do not get out of bed, sometimes we go there only with the idea of ​​a dream .  But we always, always believe each other sexually " .  Oddly enough, sex has not yet rule the world (in the media and advertising agencies may not agree with me) .  And so, when the only affection that you get at night, a kiss on the forehead and vague "good night", it may mean (and so, probably, and there) that your favorite is tired, his bad mood or problems at work .  Well, or the Formula 1! .   Life is often simpler than what we think about it .  Change the situation in which you usually have sex, or to add to your image some unexpected details .  High heels, stockings, mysterious eyes - and all the problems, even the start of high-speed cars, fly out of his head .

5) You looked around.

Remember what I said about the desire? So, one day, when it is, quite frankly, it was not at its peak, I walked out of the shop (thank God, is not the product) and saw the very dark hair .  Fortunately for me, the street was no sun; otherwise, I'm afraid I would have gone blind .  He smiled so openly and radiant, it seemed, life loves him more than the others - and quite legally! Well, not that I could see these very good base, so casually remarked in passing .  Okay, okay, guilty! I admit his guilt until the last item .  Put the handcuffs on me, and if you have more then any other girl too! But we're just looking, not touching, not even going, no matter what thought our poor boyfriends and gossiped envious friend .  And by the way, those boyfriends and do not without sin: we saw something, look how one of them spent the charming babe brunette with black eyes and forms J.Lo! Incidentally, for some tall blonde with light green eyes (me, for example), it could well become a problem!

"Is not no big deal! "- I am building a disgruntled grimace when a friend of (no doubt with the best intentions) says, where, when and with whom to see my favorite .  But the point is really great! Not Field Summary friend, of course .  Our relationship .  That's why all of these - and many more - questions climb into my head .  Since then, as you become two, you are less loyal to yourself, you even less committed to each other, but the two - Relations .  However, you pass through the black and white stripes, two of the task and go to a common goal .  And over time, you are surprised to realize that it is - not just the guy with whom you have sex several times a week (a day or morning, there are different days!) .  And at this time he thinks, he is waking up next to a girl who not only prepares him breakfast and sitting next when you have to go on a visit to his parents, but suddenly became his best friend .  And all the rest: the views on both sides, different hobbies, billiards, his friends and watch your shopping trips (and even Formula 1!) Loses its meaning in the face of the fact that you - together .  You - the two .

Sometimes in the morning I look at the still sleeping favorite .  Such a serious day sleeping, he looks like a little helpless child .  I recover his blanket, lying quietly beside him and think of all the (inevitable) differences that arise between two people who have decided to go through life together .  And I understand that they are nothing compared to the fact that we are connected .  The value of what we did together - despite the irrational use of the dishwasher, my culinary skills, his taciturnity and stunning brunettes, huge .  And, to be honest, I like it .  I like that feeling that unites us is much more than me .  It gives my life value, which would never have been if I were in this life alone .  I still spend hours in shops .  Irrational to spend money, spend hours talking on a mobile and looking, though, for the most part, by chance, on the interesting men .  I hang out with friends discuss the latest achievements of creative cinema, while as my favorite I would like to spend time with me at home .  Hell, it is easier to list what I'm doing right! It will take just a minute, and the fingers of one hand would be enough .  That is, I know that thousands of things that annoy me and it just satellites launched in orbit around a huge dissatisfaction with the world of our relationship .  And I'm ready to sign that this planet has the attraction that I'm happy not to resist .

A habit ... In the end, if in spite of them you are still together, and really love each other. Just like that, really, and in spite of everything. Some things are actually much easier than sometimes seem.

Natasha Pavlova specifically for the Women's Club

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