What are moms

And what is the "work" Mom? It is not in the preparation of food, change diapers Pampers - what parents need to know for beginners   infant or gluing applications of colored paper. The main duty of mothers - to take care of the child and nurture it. But what exactly does that mean?

Most of us have a vague idea of ​​what it means to "nurture" and "take care", but some things still need to be clarified.

Caring mother - is not a "staff", a nurse, a cook and cleaner. Mom does not just contain children clean and warm, fat and happy. It also helps children to develop, demonstrate talents and abilities. She breathes into them the love and joy that inspires achievement and accomplishment.

My mother - not a food processor

Mom - it's not a life shook housewife, half dead from fatigue and the daily sacrifice. Mom must find time to read, walk and be able to quickly pick up the camera when the spaghetti instead of mouth is on top of the child. She is involved in a child's life, she is ready to break away from household chores to see the world through his eyes, even if it means that the carpet will not be for some time been cleaned. Mom always understand, comfort and caress, no matter how many years did not have a son or daughter - three or thirty-three.

But mothers as fathers, strongly developed instinct to protect his child (no wonder it is called the parent), and this often leads to the fact that the mother passes the line separating the care and custody of the control.

Get to know your child

You can not control the outcome, so to speak, to predict how the finished dish will turn out, but you can add the necessary ingredients. Try to know your child as a person, even if he does not like you, and cultivate in them the best quality. By example, you can show your child how to live with passion and enthusiasm, and how to use of all talents and abilities with which nature has endowed us. Parent education should contribute to the emotional and spiritual growth.

Before you make an endless list of "what to do Mama", which you will never be able to realize, think about the fact that maternal care is not to do everything for the child or to make everything perfect. The main thing - to try my best, but do not sacrifice your personality or bring themselves up to the handle, and then indignant because of what your needs are not being met. You can not raise a child from a strong, integrated and self-sufficient person, if it is completely dissolved.

You do not have to be just a mother. You must be a woman, and an interesting personality to make you pass that child.

Whether there is too much paternal support and motherly love?

In order to become a full-fledged mature person, each of us needs the support of a father and a mother's love. Therefore, the family should be and dad and mom. Unfortunately, not always possible to establish or maintain a normal family, but it does not change: the traditional division of roles in the family is necessary for the harmonious development of the child.

"The approval and support of his father" plus "mothering" equal "parental mission accomplished." As you can see, in this equation of successful education have no control.

What is the approval and caring teenager need?

In most cases, parents praise teenagers for some achievements, but rarely say glad very fact of their existence. They are well-groomed, fed and constantly feel the attention of parents, but this is not the account that you want to turn into a full-fledged personality.

What happens when a child grows up in a family where there is usually expressed support or love, or a combination of both? It turns out that it inflicts no less traumatized than violence or the complete lack of attention of parents. Do not get me wrong: violence and neglect are destroying the psyche of the child, but those who did not get his father's attention to childhood and maternal love, suffer no less.

The pain and emptiness zakompleksovannost hidden rehearsed to perfection smile and impeccable behavior - here is a portrait of such children. But if the child does not give parents the trouble, it does not mean that he's all right.

So how much of his father's attention and motherly love a child needs? And does this mean that you need to be perfect parents? No, no and NO! Support and approval of the father do not have to be perfect, they just have to be. A "number" of support depends on each individual child: someone only a couple of words to feel wanted and loved, and someone needs to be a long conversation. Same thing with a mother's love - there is no universal prescription for each child needs an individual approach.

But how to understand exactly how much love and attention you need for your particular child?

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