Emotional Blackmail

Ask parents what they most want for their children, and many of them answered that they were happy. This is exactly what is the cause of emotional blackmail: I will not be happy until you do not do everything in my opinion - one of the most common ways to manipulate their parents, with whom you have to fight.

Experts advise parents to ask yourself one very important question: is my job - to make your child happy and ready for life? And what I need to do?

Life can not consist only of happy moments. Your job as a parent to help your child understand that. It's okay if your child is sad when his behavior will affect the way of his life in society. Concentrate on what you are asking your child to do, ignoring emotions. If it says that you are destroying his life, forcing him to do your homework before you go to a party, you can answer the following: I understand that you think I'm ruining your life, when I force you to do your homework, but still you must do it before going for a walk.

If you are able to insist on his own, with time your child will no longer use emotional blackmail, as a form of manipulation.

Silencing

What parents have not seen their children silent, gloomy and does not want to talk about? Children use silencing, as a strategy, as they think that if they refuse to answer, then your request magically canceled.

You can make it clear to your child that even though he refuses to talk to you, he does not become invisible. To cope with this form of manipulation, set a limit of entertainment such as video games or the computer while reducing the length of, say, an hour every evening. Make it clear to your child that only after homework, he can start to entertainment and every time you repeat a request to make homework more than twice, it will lose ten minutes of sitting at the computer. That is when your child's refusal to respond to you start to work against him, not for him.

But it is also important to know the reason why your children do not speak. This manipulation, or something else? There are times when a child needs more time to process information. If your child is upset about something, I pay attention to it and let him know that he can talk to you, even if three days have passed.

Exposure to question

Have you ever heard this phrase from her child: I will be an outcast if you do not give me to buy these jeans? Parents fear their children are not the same as everyone else. Children know this and hope to play on it in their favor.

Parents should be sure of the veracity of these statements from the children. Be rational. Could this be true? Ask your child why he will not look as if you do not give him to wear some kind of hat, and respond according to the situation.

If you realize that your child is using this technique to fool you to get what he wants, be steadfast. Make it clear to your child that trying to control you in this manner is absolutely unacceptable and will be punished.

The most important thing for parents - is to stand firm. A parent who will step aside and avoid conflict with their child can not be considered a good and responsible parent. You would do well in the first place put the safety of the child, and put his happiness at last.

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