Each of us in the account there are a couple of failed romances. Unsuccessful in the sense that they have failed. Do not come to its logical conclusion, which are almost all the romantic dating. They fled suffer the due time and embarked on a new relationship maelstrom. And it seems that everything would be fine, but every man in our life plays a role one way or another, affect our future lives and relationships with other men. Some of these men and remain in our lives, leaving and returning into our consciousness a kind of flash-back. We accept, and every time we pass a vicious circle, experiencing everything again.

Why do we deal with the former? Why do we drag with them the baggage of the past into the future? And whether the future if the past is this ...? The future clearly impossible. Because with luggage, we simply do not see any other man, or he sees us with the most luggage and at one point it deems unsupportable. Thus, the ghosts of our past can ruin the future. What to do to prevent this? Well, firstly, you need to understand that so valuable in your luggage, you do not want to abandon it. Refuse from the past, we only when it does not go to any comparison with the present? So the ghost of a particularly valuable. There are three main types of men who are permanently cut into our memory. And are thus luggage.

1. "Onegin".

This ghost of his youth, a youth school, when almost all of us fall in love unrequited. Or the reaction, but nevertheless with a sad outcome. It can be in love with all the girls in the classroom or in the first year. And you was among those who wrote him a letter a la Tatyana Larina. Years later, of course, everything goes. But Onegin's meeting, we are again reminded her maiden love and look forward to a logical conclusion of the novel. For there, in the girls' dreams all that way and it was like Pushkin - you bright and fashionable, and of course he was sorry about his youthful coolness. This ghost-vryat to interfere with your present and especially the future. Now you're probably looking at him with new eyes and see how lucky you are that if your letter remained unanswered.

2. Perfect Couple

Your love affair ended inexplicably .  And you never regretted (well, not counting, of course the first two weeks, the situation in suffering) the completion of your relationship .  It could be an ideal husband .  Loyal and hardworking - everything in the house as they say, behind him, you'd be like a stone wall, and it would be a great father to your children .  And you in your 20 in the big city was bored to cook soup, wait for it to work, and then stroked his shirt until he meets an evening press .  With each subsequent failed novel, you think back to it, and even amassed his number .  It is as a fallback in case the more ideal and will not be .  Here you are more ghost for him .  He is such a man, who decided that he should be in this life .  And she thinks you're an ideal candidate for the role of wife .  Now that you have something to relate to him keeps his life now, better let him go .  His flash-back you risk to become a femme fatale, because of which he will become an inveterate bachelor, always waiting for you .

3. The man of my dreams

Do you still remember with awe the day when you meet .  It looks perfect, beautiful figure, excellent work, fashionable machine .  He does not know what to suffer from love, but know what you please .  Always understand your jokes and realizes your dreams .  Once a month he was calling with the words "Hello, Baby! "You half an hour talking about nothing, and you are a thousand times, hanging up, saying he - man of my dreams .  This specter of the most brutal, his flash-back-and most painful, and only it makes you think, and suddenly . ? And this is the baggage that we do not want to leave in the past, why? Because it is a dream .  That's only in pursuit of his dream, in an effort to be with a man who will never be yours, we risk losing their future .  Another novel is not successful, you go on the bustling city, and think about it .  And not because it's your dream, but because more no one was as good as him, no one you do not understand .  And you remember it now, because you are alone .  You just have not met anyone after him equivalent .  Every time you stay one you remember him, because with him you were not alone, and it was good .  And it seems that it is ideal .  But in reality it is not so, and if you try to remember something that was bad, even sad, perhaps even sadder than it is now .  It's sad because he will never give you your soul mate in exchange for the one that you give him a part of himself .  And maybe it gives, but not now, and not to you .  But when you're sitting alone in a coffee shop on a quiet little old street of big cities, it is very difficult to understand, and it seems that if you call him now, he is overjoyed and everything will be different .  And, of course, there are no rules without exceptions, and it is possible that it will be so .  But before you do that, think about it .  Remember your problems .  Why do you think that now is the time to change everything, and if you did not work then you get now? What do you personally understand that you have changed so that would have arisen earlier problems between you? And most importantly, if he wants the same? Because often we come up with it yourself ... .  We are looking for the signs of destiny, where they do not, read between the lines and hear his words, what he did not even think .  Women feature of this - see the love there, where the maximum is that it has to offer - it's sex .  Sex with the ex - it's sad .  You not only brake the present and the future, but and lowers their self-esteem .  Do not kid yourself and admit that every time you hope to hear from him the sacred word to resume relations .  They can not be resumed, thus certainly .  Why would he make in a relationship some difficulties when everything is fine, and you're always so close .  Only here you can not say the same about him .  After weighing all the pros and cons, finishing his cup of hot chocolate in the same coffee shop with a view from the window of an old street metropolis, you realize that life is too short and you do not have time for the next flash-back .  Do you have your city and .  The town, which is full of ghosts ... .   But they are not afraid, if you are ready to meet with them .

Lyudmila specifically for the Women's Club

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