It sometimes happens that a welcome meeting with a new friend suddenly turns into a heavy burden. She would look at the clock. First, stealth, and then with a clear allusion. Time stretches like rubber, and the young man is a growing irritation. We have to admit - it's a bad date. It's a shame a situation which, moreover, requires an immediate solution.

What date can be regarded as a failure

When it comes to romantic meeting and not meeting with the sick in the hospital and to the prisoners in the prisons so that a date can be called that, which did not lead to further development of relations. In response to the question: "What is an unpleasant date? "People usually start to tell stories from his own life. Such stories can be heard in abundance. They are all very different, but they share the following: a date has not met the expectations of the narrator.

The fact that ninety-nine and nine-tenths percent of the people there that tell of the said subject, is already a strong argument not to panic and not to grieve too long about a failed date. This can happen to anyone. However, it makes sense to analyze the unpleasant incident and try not to fall more in similar situations.

You should not be considered a failed date after which both sides want to see again, even if someone was unhappy with him, meeting place or some nuances in the behavior of a partner. If mutual interest and sympathy have not lost, and even intensified, it spilled on his pants neighbor coffee or a boring film do not matter much.

"Fedot, but not the same"

The most common variant of frustration in the object dating - dating online. After a long and fascinating correspondence does not come to the meeting stylish athlete and owner of quite ordinary appearance, if not worse. He opens the door not black "Lexus" or red "Ferrari", against which flaunts "in contact", and falls out of awkwardly crowded trolley.

It's not so bad, after all, a person does not drink water, not in the car happy. But if those who regularly go witty messages, unable to maintain a normal conversation and make a couple of lovely compliments Compliments , The disappointment is inevitable.

It happens differently. Met at a party, or simply in a big company, young people like each other in appearance, but did not have time and exchange a few words in private. And here, on the first date it turns out that they are quite different. The point is not that someone is blowing his nose in the shade, while others continually quotes Schopenhauer and Nietzsche. They simply have very different interests and very different notions of what is good and what is bad, that the stylish and what is ugly, that cute, and that vulgar.

Even if people seem to belong to the same circle, a date can be shown (and better if they occur at once) quality, which would be absolutely impossible to tolerate: tediousness, bragging, greed, excessive pessimism, humor "below the belt", bigotry issues sports, culture or religion. No less unpleasant if once it becomes apparent that the first date a young man is going to certainly finish in bed, and he goes to his goal with a head and delicacy blind bulldozer.

How to interrupt the meeting, without making a mortal enemy

Basic rule to remember: dating, unlike business, exist to bring people joy and pleasure. Nobody is obliged to continue to communicate if he does not want. In the case of "blind date" occasion "to thank and say goodbye" can serve as the mere fact of cheating. In this situation, it is ethically right to say so directly, to turn around and leave. This, incidentally, it is reasonable from the point of view of safety: It is unknown who may be a man impersonating someone else: a modern version of Cyrano de Bergerac or a fraud, marriage scams, and even sexual psychopath.

In other cases, there are some decent ways out of the situation:

• Politely but firmly tell the truth. We should not use too lengthy and profound phrases like "I do not think you're the type of person that I was looking for all my life." First, it is too theatrical, and secondly, it is an occasion for discussion. For example, pikaper may immediately be tested for compatibility sex, and the girl would have to separately explain why it did not intend to immediately go to bed with him.
• Before the visit, ask the friend that she called about an hour after the appointed time of the meeting. If everything is okay, just say "all good" or another passphrase. If necessary, immediate evacuation from the scene, play a surprise, fear, annoyance and said that any force majeure requiring immediate attention, goodbye and leave. Retreat in this case very quickly, until the object did not have time to recover and to propose any alternative.
• "Translate arrows", that is to make the young man he wanted to end the meeting. You can start talking enthusiastically about what he obviously is not interesting or offer to go to spend time there where he just does not want to go. Especially well, if he managed to tell what he does not like in girls. One need only eloquently demonstrate the possession of these qualities and habits. However, there is some element of risk: the young man might react just the opposite: suddenly interested in the work of the Pre-Raphaelites, or ignite a desire to work as a volunteer in a shelter for homeless animals. But such an outcome should look to it: maybe he is not as hopeless as it seems.
• Take time off and go to the toilet in English. Even if the object is no different acumen, an hour or two or three, he begins to understand that from a date that something did not happen.

What not to do is to refer to a sudden indisposition. In this situation, only absolutely useless man let a girl. All others will be torn to accompany her to the hospital and taken home.

No need to answer in detail the question, "Why do not you meet me? "And even more so, to open his eyes to his own moral character. What is the point to bring the one who will never see? Rude, too, is by no means impossible: it is ugly and downright dangerous.

It is unacceptable to give false hopes such as: "Let's be friends! ". Immediately retires only pikaper. Among them there is a special term "to send to the DOD," where DOD - an acronym made up of the letters of the proposal itself. To pick up artist there is nothing worse than to be sent back. A female friendship Female friendship: Myth 4   he needs as a dolphin pants. But another type of man can take it seriously, and it will be a new challenge. Friendship with someone who irritates already on the first date First date: everything is just beginning , Is unlikely to bring joy.

We must act imaginatively, firmly and, if possible, be honest. Keeping vigilant, common sense, presence of mind and a sense of humor can be a bad time to interrupt the interview and get rid of bad communication.

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