Almost every one of us at least a few times in life fear and anxiety when trying to attract the attention of their object predilections. And imagination helpfully draws us a picture of our failures, one worse than the other. Birth phobias Phobias - psychological advice   or, in other words, in the various fears particular situation - this is perfectly normal. It is important to realize this and not hesitate.

Now we try to challenge each of their fears and beat himself. So, let's begin. The most huge phobia in art Love is the "fear of failure". We panic are afraid for their failures. We are afraid, that we will be rejected and misunderstood. We are afraid to hurt yourself. So we try by all means avoid the need for any action. We tell ourselves that Now, "not the right time", that we are "tired" and that "looks bad" and that he "Not for me" ... This is fine, and may even be true, but as then we will know when the time is appropriate, and, and the beauty of our blinding, and the impact of an object in the lush mood ?! What if it happens that you do no longer have to meet? Or, while you're waiting for this light MIGA will move the other way? Maybe you should try and be patient failure than a lifetime to regret what you did? At least you there is nothing to reproach himself, and that will then tell the grandchildren! Remember how once studied hodit- always had to fall first, but with each a new attempt your step became firmer and more confident. And in art Me: confidence comes with experience.

You're probably going to laugh right now, but many people are afraid Success! Or maybe you're one of them, too? Ironically, the original tuning yourself up for failure, we get lost, when suddenly the object of our passions begins show us your location, willingness to support communication and establish closer relationships. We do not expect success, we are not ready to the next step and just do not know what to do next. You stunned result but because you need to pull myself together and started to bring everything to the end, achieve this goal - we did not just want to talk, but also learn, and build relationships. It's time to act! With the experience and this fear will take place when you know how it happens, or should happen, you confidently step over through this fear, and rejoice in your success!

It is important to treat everything very easy, relax, remember Childhood and allow yourself a bit of mischief. Then you rack required ease of communication. It is not necessary to plan acquaintance, mentally prostraivat dialog. While you're planning, banal object can leave the scene. A if you prepare the monologue, the partner of his ignorance of the role you will strongly Shoot down and pull down so well orchestrated play. We need to develop a rule automatism and force myself to just go ahead and start the communication, and only the answer to the phrase "Hi! "- Sorientirueshsya on the spot!

Next on the scale of a phobia is "the fear of the environment." You You think: "How can I go? There are so many people! Everyone will be on me look! They will hear us! "... Are you afraid of the negative reactions of others, you care about their opinion and their assessment. Now think: what do you want then to actually - to get acquainted with an attractive man, and perhaps even your future husband and the father of your children, or go unnoticed without causing interest and without attracting attention? If, however, I was not mistaken, and am a good reason you this dialogue, then you are the right priorities, and on its smetesh the way all obstacles, even exposed him myself! Remember: you multiple times It goes well already overcome the fear of the crowd - You have to take exams, and then you really appreciate, and what you say and how you say as behaving as presents itself! Maybe it's time to get rid of that fear for all life? Perhaps you still come in handy oratory, so try it out the easiest and most effective way. Take a volume of his favorite poet, Come out into the crowd and start to read, only loud and expressive. And do not pay attention to the reactions of others! Do it for yourself! And when you suddenly I feel, when you become absolutely indifferent to what is happening around - Tear off the reading, raise your eyes, strife shoulders and smile samoyu Me: You won!

Collegiate Olga

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