Modern men - successful and secured. They travel in a beautiful car, fashion designers have dressed, eat only in restaurants, have sex with someone want when they want. They are like children unattended: finally you can do what I want and do not listen to my mother. Child distinguishes them only one - a child can be left at home with a nanny, a man - no.

It would be great if the infantile man Infantile man: just run without looking back or trying to fix?   It can be recognized at a glance. But, unfortunately, it is very similar to the present, he does not play in the sandbox and lives without a mother. Moreover, his infantilism will not open to you at the beginning of the relationship. Adult child, it is as real - it will guide you to the restaurants, and even give flowers to solve any problems. It can be like a five-year child to enjoy a new phone model, excitedly telling you about its functions, or to show off a new car. You say - everything is easier - that it was clear who the child is.

This is just not the most important manifestation of immaturity is what psychologists say, calling us all in the soul children. All this and you can do and be a normal adult.

Infantilism manifested in the relationship, namely when it is necessary to make a decision. To take responsibility. Psychologically immature person is not ready to create, it can only destroy. He can not and does not want to maintain a smooth stable relationship, it is difficult to expect from the care and participation. You can meet for a long time and you have time to love this child and strongly attached to it, when you understand that the child next to you, but an adult.

So, the main features of an adult child:

1. Selfishness.

The child does not like to be tasteless, sick or hurt. He does not understand that the cat also hurt when it pulled its tail. Adult child hurts a loved one, not even thinking about it. This all does not concern him. The main thing is that he is good and he can cheerfully clap their hands, hearing the plaintive meowing of the very cats, whose role and you have to play.

2. Consumer attitude.

Child eating a meal, but does not prepare; It splits the cup, and it does not stick together. Adult child, of course, can order food in a restaurant and buy a new cup, but continues to believe that everything is obliged to serve and to please in every way. Therefore, every quarrel, he will puff bow lips and moody tone you will utter their grievances.

You want to express my wishes? Well try, in response to them, you'll get more portion "of children's discontent."

3. irresponsibility.

The child would not be liable. All responsible mother. An adult child is free in its decisions, but responsibility for them does not want. He can not discuss the relationship without vagaries. You can never make him a serious conversation. And breaking the relationship, it just disappears from sight.

4. Toy

The child necessarily need toys, and of course games. Home Toy adult child - is another person with whom he treats like a doll. Playing with him in love, you risk becoming a broken doll.

5. I am better.

As children solve conflicts? Who will win more banging is right. Adult child will try a painful hit you in word or deed, to prove that it is cooler.

What is the reason for this behavior? The fact that in each of us there are three sub-personalities - adult, child and parent. And your relationship will grow and be harmonious and complete, provided that your subpersonality parent is more highly developed than others. Then you'll be happy with ponyanchishsya child. It is possible that you like to play the daughters and mothers. You give - it gets. All are satisfied. One look like, and the second like to take care of, and sometimes capricious.

A pair of child - adult also possible. If you harmoniously developed all the sub-personalities, and you clearly understand the situation in which you need to be strict in what you can behave like a child, and where necessary to solve the problem solely from the perspective of an adult. In this case, you as any normal person, sooner or later get tired of nyankatsya and constantly give absolutely nothing to give except the whims and demands of "More! ".

The most sad ending your relationship to expect if you too have not yet emerged from childhood. When a child meets the child - the problems begin. She does not have enough attention, he did not like the fact that it limits his freedom. Tolerating they too can not, who first began to let him and asks for forgiveness. Long sitting in different corners and you can not begin to make children's stupidity.

Do you think that he should always find half an hour, when you call him at work? I sincerely do not know how to work, you can not think of you, not to miss and do not write endless love sms? Are you sure that the choice between the evening with you and everything else, must necessarily be in your favor? Or maybe you always cites the example of his former? Endless stories to tell what it was wonderful, always understand your jokes, unlike some.

Well. ... In this case, you most need a nanny!

Lyudmila specifically for the Women's Club

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