Raising children's parents, first of all, try to impose their worldview, oblivious to the fact that once they themselves were the same curious toddler. Mom and dad totally lost when he heard the first "adult" questions of his child, and noticed that the baby begins to touch herself in intimate places, more often exposed to panic envision terrible scenes of debauchery. In such situations, the main rule - do not blame the child, not frighten him that this vile and wrong, and to accept the situation as normal everyday moment.

The first baby steps in the knowledge of his body

To know your body more kids start from the cradle. They pulled the handle hair Hair: structure, characteristics of growth and development   in his head, considering fingers, legs, picking their pupochek .  About 10 - 12 months, their attention is drawn to the intimate organs .  Kids play with them, pulling or scratching, and at the same time experiencing an indescribable joy and interest .  But this is normal, and does not go beyond the usual development .  In 4 years, they are seriously thinking about the difference between boys and girls, but in terms of just the individual characteristics .  Parents should provide for their behavior in some situations, the child in the future perceived human relationships, including sex between adults, as something normal and blameless .  When mom and dad begin to teach your baby, showing him where the eyes, mouth, nose, and the theme "the name is" trying to miss, or not affect it at all .  However, this is not worth .  Nothing wrong with that boy will know what to call his genitals - namely, the penis and testicles, and the girl called her "pipi" vulva .  But we have to explain that they should not be touched or rubbed in the presence of strangers in public places .  Young children do not have any association with the sexual organs and their functions, which cause disgust .  It's hard trying to put in the baby's head just adults, forgetting about natural naturalness some body parts .

Proper behavior of parents

At the age of five to seven years, children begin to understand that experiencing a pleasant sensation of feeling in their genitals .  Sometimes they do it on purpose to repeat the pleasure .  This phenomenon is called 'child masturbation "that leads many parents in shock .  In this situation, everything depends on how you react themselves moms and dads .  It should take into account that it is a normal stage of human sexual development, and if to prevent such actions in the rough form, in the future he may appear serious problems in sexual relationships .  To dispel all doubts and fears about the "abnormal" action to help his child a normal conversation or question about what the child is doing and that he is interested in at the moment .  One "adult" explanation would be sufficient, but do not overload the child's head the flow of information, "all", all the time .  And, of course, there are no threats in the form of "do not touch, and then fall off!"

Such a calm demeanor parents will develop a trusting relationship with the children that will easily talk about topics related to the sexual sphere of life.

According to the observations of educators and psychologists about 11% of children attending kindergartens, are engaged in "masturbation." However, this is not only a natural interest, but in some cases, an indication of available child neurosis. In this case, it is necessary to understand what caused such a disorder. This can be stressful and emotional situation in the family - the constant quarrels of parents, divorce is too strict and rude attitude with children. Constant feeling of genitals or "masturbation" in such cases acts as a soothing effect.

But there are also reasons related to the personal hygiene of the child - it's too tight clothing boys, causing constant discomfort in friction fabric on the genitalia in girls - vaginal discharge, as well as an insufficient number of swimming or excessive stimulation of when washing.

The presence of worms and pinworms and provoke undue attention. Constant itching forcing the child to pull the hands of intimate bodies, pull them and constantly annoying. It is necessary to be tested for the presence of parasites, especially if the kid attends child care.

In any case, the part of the parents should pay more attention to, and understand that "children's masturbation" - is a form of reducing any anxiety a child and an adult sex he has nothing.

Elena Pondina

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