Features puberty

We used to blame teens for misconduct. Parents often like to play a game called "Is not it awful? ". More in the IV century BC Socrates wrote: "Our youth love luxury, she was badly brought up, it makes a mockery of the authorities and does not respect the elderly." But your child should be, above all, love and understanding, without this it will be difficult to go through adolescence, which can be difficult to compare with the period of early childhood.

At this age a person is most needed support. But, having gone through puberty, we forget it. And so it goes on from generation to generation. In this article, we will examine what happens to the child when he becomes an adult, and what dangers await him at the same time.

In this period, the adolescent nothing is permanent, everything flows and changes The main result of the development during adolescence is finding his own "I", his views on life, confidence and independence, the acquisition of such qualities as loyalty and faithfulness. And if these qualities will form now, they will not be never. Do not interrupt your child grow up, just be there and try to understand what is happening.

What exactly happens to a teenager at that time?

Emotional maturation

Everyone knows how unbalanced and vulnerable teenager. It comes from the inability to understand their feelings. And the feelings at this age a lot and they can be the basis of formation of self-worthlessness, get rid of that will be very difficult.

The feeling of fear that he did not like the others, is pushing teenage teenager in the company, which is ruled by the leader and the rest obey him. The worst thing now - is to break out from the crowd, be not like others, the black sheep. Teenager group is protected by a teenager, here he feels comfortable as in a cocoon.

The task of parents is to maintaining a friendly relationship with your teen, do not lose sight of his social circle. This is very important as it is now, he could first meet with crime, alcohol and drug abuse. If tactfully and unobtrusively to deal with a teenager various life situations, then gradually he will form their own views and he sees his surroundings in a different light. At the same time we must try to captivate teen something interesting and useful. If he began to fall behind in school, and here you need to keep everything under control and in time to help, as this may cause a teenager in bad company, where he will understand and in a way "help." No other way, since all the bans and adolescence are not working.

Gradually, the teenager comes to steadiness and consistency of thinking. And if he had avoided conflict and went to open confrontation, then he gradually learns to solve conflicts logically and responsibly, according to the situation.

Recognition of his puberty

The manifestation of an active interest in the opposite sex is not the last place in the life of a teenager and is closely linked to his emotional development. Someone said something about his appearance or abilities - and it hurts so much that can go into a painful state. Learning to be critical of such statements, and to see myself from the outside - one of the main objectives of the period. It is because of their recognition of puberty at the correct formation of the views of the opposite sex in person appear qualities such as dedication and loyalty.

Social maturation and freedom from parental care

The teen peer group comes from a sense of insecurity and awkwardness to achieve the confidence and resourcefulness. From the slavish imitation of independence. From quarrelsome society to adequately communicate. And all of it myself, you can help him only indirectly, imperceptibly shaping his views, helping and supporting him. Gradually, he ceases to seek support from the parents and starts to rely on its own strength.

Intelligent maturation and career choices

The teenager is undergoing a period of faith in authority to demand arguments. From the facts - to the explanations. From numerous superficial interest to several permanent. And finally, the true interests are formed primarily of interest to the profession. He also formed gradually from interest in the prestige of the profession - to an adequate assessment of their capabilities and mature choice of the future sessions.

Life philosophy

Teenager goes from indifference to public affairs to consciously participate or not participate in them, since the end of adolescence have already formed their own opinions and own position in life. From the pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of painful situations for him, he comes to behavior, based on a sense of duty.

The main task of the parents in this period - not to protect adolescents from all of life's dangers and adversities, otherwise it will remain for a lifetime immature personality, devoid of a sense of duty and unable to make an independent decision. We must make every effort to create an independent adolescent correct outlook on life, the ability to behave in society, even if something does not appeal and the ability to adequately get out of any situation.

Your child will be grateful for this support.

Related Articles

Difficult age: how to survive it without losses?

The crisis of three years: the first steps towards independence

Children's tantrums: whims for parents

Children's fears: where they come from, and what to do with them?