Internet gives people today truly limitless possibilities, and communicate with people at a distance of thousands of kilometers - is one of them. On the Internet to meet and interact, they fall in love and quarrel. For someone correspondence with a foreigner - a way to learn a foreign language, and for someone - the ability to radically change their lives and find true love. In any case, do not forget about security.

Not only romance

Virtual communication is always fraught with a certain danger. Risk idealize a partner by correspondence and subsequently to give up on it is quite high. This is due to the fact that all people want to look better than they really are.

If in reality splurge potential friends may be too difficult, because the risk of exposure is great, the temptation to embellish correspondence is indeed very large. "Forget" to mention the problems or about their own status, annual income and overstated the size of the apartment, came up with a new prestigious specialty and even attachement alien picture is a snap. Cheating can be quite innocent, although such reticence can create problems in the future. But speculators who are professionally seduce women by correspondence, and then somehow use them - is also, unfortunately, not uncommon.

Correspondence with the foreigner can be an enjoyable and rewarding pastime, if you follow certain safety rules. Otherwise lovers epistolary genre at risk of much regret that they had once had the idea to find yourself beloved by correspondence.

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Warning signs

If real communication is possible to evaluate not only what the source says, but what he says, what gestures while doing what it looks like and even smells. Virtual communication provides much less information, so you need to develop the ability to read between the lines to detect barely perceptible signals that the source may be insincere.

For example, not a good sign - the absence of treatment by name. If the foreigner avoids using the names or immediately comes up with some universal nickname, it could mean that he just wrote the same letter to many addresses at once. And if at the beginning of this correspondence can still be considered normal, the passionate declarations of love Declarations of love - a cherished phrase   combined with ignoring the name should at least alert. It is also suspicious if a foreigner avoids answering questions and even wrote a little out of place: it is a clear sign of lack of interest.

If, before the personal contact is still not reached, the love declarations look pretty strange. Adult male, ready to lead the lady down the aisle, he had seen only in pictures - very suspicious phenomenon, especially in the age of Photoshop. Either this man is very childish, or has mental problems, or it pursues some of his goals.

It should be alerted and excessive sexual concerns, of course, if the acquaintance did not happen on a dedicated website, where everyone is looking for only a couple of sex. But if it all began quite decent, and suddenly people started actively asking to send him nude photos or do love to him on Skype, a better acquaintance with such unpredictable foreigner, perhaps not to continue.

If a friend by correspondence constantly contradicts himself, it is, of course, should be alerted. It does not prevent at least occasionally reread old letters. Sometimes it may be interesting, for example, if it turns out that a month ago, a successful lawyer, declared himself no less successful stockbroker or doctor. Professional speculators, however, these errors do not normally perform, but to expose the fan will also be helpful.

If the previous parts can be called alarming bell, then asking for money in any form - it is a real alarm. And if the amount is small, it does not justify a pen pal. Firstly, at least, strange that a small amount a person can borrow only a virtual friend in another country. Second, the scammers like to lull the vigilance of their victims. First, they ask a small amount and it immediately returned. Thus consolidating its reputation, they are asked to have a large sum and disappear with her forever.

Sometimes asking for money may not be direct and veiled. Constant complaints, complaints about the difficulties and assurances that if you have money, you can be fabulously rich quick - this is not an occasion to help the other party money. Just a word of sympathy to be enough, although it should be ready, that this dialogue is likely to cease forever.

The other side of the coin

When corresponding two sides evaluate each other, reading between the lines. It must be remembered that a foreigner reading the arguments about the lack of money may also suspect that his new friend - a very mercantile person, and even fraud. So you need to choose your words very carefully and avoid ambiguities. It is better to avoid lies, even the most harmless, especially if you plan to full-time acquaintance.

For real meeting must be carefully prepared. It is not necessary to rely on the foreign gentleman: going to visit him, you need to take with you enough money to be able to return home if the relationship will not develop. And of course, do not "burn bridges" to sell the apartment and retire from work, going to a meeting with never before he had seen the beloved. No matter how dizzy love, and forget about their own interests, in any case not worth it.

Maria Bykov