Around the fifteenth wedding anniversary, most couples are well aware of how to deal with the many challenges that arise in marriage. Of course, by this time the feeling is not as bright as the dawn of the relationship, but in a healthy marriage, they become stronger. However, to build such marital relationship, you need to work hard.

Myth: Never go to bed right after a quarrel. If you do not deal with the conflict immediately, the problem will only worsen

Folk wisdom says that you need to go to sleep in peace and harmony, and nothing else. In an ideal world, this recommendation is feasible, but no one is perfect, and in real life hardly worth sacrificing hours of sleep, so in whatever was to resolve the conflicts today. Moreover, many people are just not able to constructive dialogue when they are angry or resentful; First they need to calm down. Often, when the partners are trying to negotiate something immediately after a quarrel, emotions begin to boil, and the conversation turns into a showdown now. Sleep after this will be difficult, and in the morning sleepy spouse may begin to quarrel even fiercer.

• New rule: to settle conflicts after sleep, a fresh mind

Think of other people's wisdom: tomorrow is another day. If you feel that you are ready to run at the head of the wife of a plate, it is better to go to another room to calm down and go to sleep. Not necessarily sleep in the same bedroom, but before going to bed will certainly kiss a partner, and the kiss should last, experts say, about six seconds. Sometimes the couple are so angry at each other, that the six-minute kiss can seem something almost impossible in such circumstances, but it must be done: as you show your partner that you love him, although you may be in some areas we did not agree with him. Also, sometimes these lead to kisses to something better conversations.

Myth: Once a wife understand that the steel is very different, and feelings go

According to this myth, sometimes spouses begin to go their own way, to develop in different directions, and they gradually change so that they become not the people who once fell in love .  However, experts in family psychology say very happy unions are possible even between very different people .  For example, a woman, a loving household and a passionate sports fan can have a very harmonious relationship .  For example, a wife can knit or embroider, sitting next to her husband on the couch while he looks on TV broadcast of the match of your favorite team, a couple of times a week they together make trekking, go to restaurants or exhibitions, and most importantly, no one expresses discontent hobbies partner .  If you drag a partner change dramatically after a few years of marriage, the other partner is quite capable, if not separate them, at least treat them bearable .  The fact that the spouses change does not necessarily lead to a cooling of emotions and, even more so, to the end of marriage .

• New rule: the marital relationship should not be based solely on feelings - they become harmonious and happy, if the spouses will only work on them

Even before marriage, it is desirable to be aware that over time, the feelings will change, and on the relationship have to work hard; do not expect eternal romance and passionate nights of ten years after the wedding. Marriages are really strong if the couple realize that they are - one team, and go hand in hand through financial problems, illness and even through betrayal Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself? . They are going through and the changes in their partner because they understand that all people are constantly changing, and that's fine. Do all grow together, rather than separately, and always try to find common ground that will unite you with your partner.

Myth: With age, sex ceases to play a large role for the spouses

In fact, many couples over the years, sex life is not only eroding, but even improved. Over the years the couple spent together well studied needs and preferences of each other, and are typical of young people complexes disappear. During the interviews, many women say that their sex life after fifty years (approximately after menopause) has improved markedly. Healthy men of mature age also often note an improvement in their sexual lives. Of course, they begin to have sex more often than youth, and erection problems sometimes have an effect, but increases the quality of sex - at least for people who have long-term relationships with its partners.

• New rule: The quality of the sexual life depends on you - at any age

Learn how to talk with your partner about what you want and do not want sex. Work on your body, and be inspired by the wife that he also worked on his: a proper diet Proper nutrition: I stopped eating at night   and regular exercise increases the likelihood that a long time will remain healthy and attractive to each other. Remember that the sex life - it's not only just sexual intercourse; hugs, kisses, just a touch too play an important role - it helps you feel connected to each other. Physical contact is necessary, even when one of the spouses there are health problems that can lead to a reduction in the quality of sexual life.

Unwritten rules of marital relations

• Do not criticize the parents and friends of the wife. Soft and constructive criticism is valid, but to find fault with him constantly and small things can not be - husband will accept your attitude towards them as related to himself.
• Do not give unsolicited advice. You can offer to help, but do not need to give advice to a tone reminiscent of the order, and interfere in the affairs spouse, even if you believe that it is better to know how and what to do. He, like you, should be able to ask for help, or to deal with the affairs of their own.
• Do not remind of past wrongs. If you have already discussed the previous conflicts and to forgive, do not remind them to each other than ever.
• Distribute household chores. If this is not done in the beginning of a relationship, all the homework, in most cases, would be a woman. Joint implementation of work in the home brings and allows to spend more time with each other.
• Do not publish on social networks family photos or thoughts of a personal nature without the consent of the spouse. At the beginning of the relationship to discuss what information on the partner you can publish, and what - no.
• Find the time to be alone together. Try every day to allocate at least ten minutes to talk face to face with her husband. Talk about what you can not talk in front of the children, and be in the most honest is your personal time.
• Do not threaten divorce. Do not do that ever, even in the heat of an argument. First, you cause such threats wife pain, and secondly, if the threats are repeated often, the spouse will soon cease to take them seriously.

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