Who is to blame and what to do?

Once, dank gray evening, once again wiping the tears and drank a glass of cognac valerian, you decide that this can not continue. Remembering an old recipe of my grandmother's struggle with everyday troubles, you take a piece of paper and write at the top: problems, then you begin to pour out the soul in a mournful column:

• Love: there is not expected
• Health: once was, there is no longer
• Work: is there, but it seems that soon there will be
• Appearance: the trash
• Outlook: No
• Nerves: no good
• Activities: forgotten what it is
• Friends: disappeared in the blue distance

Summing so disappointing outcome, you're going to look for a coin, it can help to decide whether to hang himself or strangle ...

There is a "black band" in your life. It seems that the problems fall on your head, like an avalanche, stunning, dazzling and shackled his hands and feet. But, in contrast to the avalanche that kills its victims quick and painless, trouble seems to have decided to take you into submission - slowly but surely. It is time to ask one of the main issues of the Russian intelligentsia: "What?" How to keep yourself in continuous, long-term stream of misfortunes and failures?

We know that the rescue of drowning - the handiwork of drowning. This also applies to those who are drowning in the waves of life's storms. So do not delay even for a minute, begin rescue operation. Ten protivokrizisnyh measures should not only keep you afloat, but also help to safely reach safe harbor.

1. Problems - the queue!

One of the main features of the "Black stripes" syndrome is an acute lack of time .  Typically, problems with periods of calm alternate and carelessness, but now they pounce on you all together, not giving to breathe .  It seems that they are countless, and you'll never deal with them .  It's time to remember the old Russian proverb: the eyes are afraid, but the hands are doing .  But his eyes were not afraid to doing so .  All business sign for a column in a chronological order: that behind what needs to be done .  Do not forget to specify the deadline for implementation .  Then take a clean sheet of paper and secure it on top of the list with two paper clips so that from under a white sheet could be seen only the first line .  Hang the list on the wall .  Now, to do business, you scratch it off the list and slide down the white sheet .  Thus, you do not forget to do the next things will not scare you, but your eyes will increase the list of victories, giving optimism and affirming that things are going, no matter what .

2. Sleep - a magical healer

Insomnia - a frequent companion "black band". You go to bed, but the concern does not give you sleep, restless thoughts crawl into her head, and now the third hour of the night, and you still toss and turn without sleeping on the hot sheets, and in the morning you get up with a sore head, completely broken. Darkness thickened around you even thicker than the evening ... Remember, there is nothing that oppresses and does not weaken the body, as the lack of sleep. Weakness, irritability, depressed mood can be signs of impending depression Depression And the result of the regular lack of sleep. Do not let insomnia weakens you in the rear! Cool bedroom, a warm blanket, a pillow and a low total silence - a simple recipe for a good sleep. If necessary, take a mild sedative. Remember: the more you sleep - the faster the time goes, the sooner the end "black band" so painless you get over it.

3. Do not give up!

Do not panic and defeatism! When everything goes wrong, there is a great temptation to give up on everything by hand, saying, "All is lost! I have nothing I can do!" - And go with the flow, waiting obediently final catastrophe. Most interesting is that katastrofistskie predictions usually come true: drooping hands and stopped to take anything for your salvation, you are, of course, go to the bottom with a pleasant feeling of his innocence. But why do you need such rightness? .. Fight to the end, do everything possible and impossible, perseverance will bring you victory. Dying is easy - it's hard to stay alive.

4. Strengthen defense

Feel like a besieged fortress. Be attentive and prudent, forget the usual carelessness, do not be afraid to play it safe. Read "hotline" in his city. Even if you never vospolzueshsya their services, you, at least you'll know what you have in reserve, and this option as a last resort. Manifested by increased attention to their health: the body under stress prone to infection may worsen chronic diseases. Do not supercool, to comply with diet, longer go on foot, taking vitamins Vitamins for everyone , To closely monitor the teeth. From stress weakens attention from inattention accidents happen; leaving home, checks off any electrical appliances, be attentive to the roadway when crossing the street, and when the car behaving.

5. Take your

Fully enjoy moments of calm. When another trouble behind, and all the onerous cares of the day completed, sit comfortably, but better lie down, relax, close your eyes and say to yourself: "At this moment I am calm and happy, I am warm, I'm fed up, I have no pain around Silence, and now I can nothing to worry about. What will happen next - I do not know. But this moment belongs entirely to me. Now I have everything in order, and nothing can shake my happiness at this moment. "

6. Humor - a strong weapon of the weak

Look at the situation with humor, and for that look at you from the side. Think about it: in fact any humor in some way built on other people's troubles. Remember the classic examples: what really good to get a pie in the face - but everyone laughs ... A drunk Hippolyte in winter coat Winter coat: Fashionable protection against the cold   and a shower cap ("Oh! Tёplenkaya gone! ..") - well it was that unforgettable New Year's Eve? .. How many had suffered for your laughter Semen Semenovich Gorbunkov ("stumbled and fell. Woke up - plaster"), and the brave General Ivolgin uttered his famous "Well, you fucking gives!" not with joy ... Try to look at life from both a comedy of manners, tells the unpleasant events of the day as if composing an article. Bitter smeshinka best bitter tears.

7. Live the present

Do not recall the past. Do not think about the future. Live in the narrow horizon of today. Past troubles are powerless, they can hit you only your own hands. Why play into the hands of his enemies? Forget the insults and destruction - and you become invulnerable. Do not irritate the wound, have the will, not to think about what will not return. Do not be scared themselves phantoms of future troubles - the future only one, and you nasochinyali a hundred fatalities, most of which will not occur. To solve problems as they come. Deciding to - forget.

8. Go into danger

Unpleasant but necessary things do not delay. If the decision is made, only much hesitation torn your soul. If scary - you have to go into danger, while not so bad. Procrastination will only worsen the situation. Unpleasant conversation, surgery, leaving work or family - all this must be done without hesitation. Consider all the options. Choose the one that seems right to you. Accept responsibility. And take the plunge.

9. Helping others help themselves

The only way to save himself - is to save others. Find those who are worse than you, believe me, there will always be such! It does not necessarily have to be the people - all the wildlife in need of compassion and aid effectiveness. Helping those who are weaker than you, first fleeing from false and demoralizing feeling that you - the most miserable creature in the world, and secondly - convinced of its strength and ability to do something positive, because to solve other people's problems always lighter than your own! You shall not abhor small good deeds, even very tiny. Avenge the evil of the world, took up arms against you, help your neighbor, help future. Their gratitude will be unexpected joy, a ray of light in the darkness thickening around.

10. All will be held

Remember: everything passes. And pass this "black stripe" in your life. This idea should not leave you for a minute. Everything goes, everything goes, come morning, look out the sun. When it comes to the worst - it starts to change for the better. And to meet the rigorous theory of probability, it will give you life, to balance the "black band" wide, full of happiness and good luck, "bright band". It is only necessary to wait!

Yulia Bolshakov

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