Upon learning of the existence of a rival, women tend to experience a storm of emotions associated with the desire to tell her "a couple of kind words," or "hair povydirat." However, both methods mentioned, as well as dozens of equivalent, ineffective and too unlikely to help make the prodigal husband exemplary father of a family. If is of paramount importance, such a goal is the restoration of the ruined hearth, we must act intelligently, good benefits on the subject, there are many: a rare professional psychologist is not faced with the question how to get rid of a rival.

Accept the situation and voluntarily assume the role of the deceived victim is not the best approach, despite the fact that the will avoid the noisy scandals, suffer from the fact that things are going this way and not another, you still have. If adultery Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself?   It is unacceptable to you, in principle, it makes sense to make a decision about the separation Parting: punctuation rules At least temporarily. And if you have the strength and desire to stand up for their own happiness in a life-and-death, then the first step should be to develop a prudent tactic.

Calmness, only calmness!

For starters still a good idea to make sure that there is indeed a competitor Many women tend to "cheat" themselves to come up with their husbands virtual passions, to be jealous of their former lover and so on. A well-known proverb: "Do not be caught - not a thief." To the case of adultery, it is suitable for all hundred percent.

It is not necessary to listen trustingly various "well-wishers", even if it's close friends or relatives. First, people are not always able to adequately assess the situation, and secondly, they may have their base in a foreign family sow grains of discord. And so to share his suspicions with his mother, and the more intimate with friends - an option more than critical. All the "moral" support from them will mean that they will take with enthusiasm to discuss the event in the company's newly-sacrifice adyultera and behind her. Renowned expert psychotherapist Natalya Tolstaya advised to tune in to this way: "This is your man, and therefore all bad he can not be. Just a "chick" flew out for a walk. I hope to be with him? Take the time to pour it with dirt, carefully peremazhetes it themselves. "

If we are really hard to suffer alone, it is better to share the problem with a "neutral" persons outside the permanent circle of friends: you can go to an appointment with a psychologist or create a branch on the theme women's forum on the Internet.

The art of communication with mistresses

How to be the case where the existence of a mistress - an indisputable fact? Among the recommendations of psychologists and found this as an attempt to hold negotiations with his mistress. But it should be just talks, and not confrontation with foul language, dramatic effects, and even what kind, personal injuries.

Talking to her husband's mistress should be short and to the point. From these phrases, she must understand for themselves that it is better to renounce all ambitions associated with another man, and does not pretend femme fatale. In all such attacks, "He loves me, not you! "It is better not to respond. In the end, the man always returned from her home. so that, by and large, it is not clear what he really loves. But in order to sustain such a conversation, of course, required strong nerves.

Another option - to talk directly with her husband. Let typed courage and will answer for which conducted this double game and to be honest once and put everything in its place. Only it is not recommended to bring her husband ultimatums like "Am I, or is it" - because there is a possibility, and that choice will be made in its favor. But the word "divorce" it is possible to say, in some men it is sobering. And as if no further unfolding situation, the main thing - do not allow yourself to self-deprecating sense. Stay with dignity and do not lose self-control - and then you win in comparison with any rival.

Svetlana Usankova

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