The complex of the "little man" - the phenomenon is much more common than one would one would expect. Low self-esteem suffer not only silent and modest "gray mouse", but, oddly enough, many seemingly self-confident people who tried his best to attract attention. Deliberately trying to emphasize its importance, one can look quite funny and caricature. And to really raise self-esteem, do not need no pathos.

Psychologists say that low self-esteem always takes Beret - a symbol of French charm   deep roots in childhood man. When parents every day a child is called a slut, the bungler, the expressed lack of confidence in his abilities and openly mocked his desires and plans, then willy-nilly, one day he himself will begin to doubt their own abilities. Even successful and quite prosperous people can experience serious internal crisis, recognizing, for example, of treason Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself?   loved one or an unexpected reduction in the work. Practical psychology often links the level of self-identity with the type of temperament. In particular, the sanguine and phlegmatic trying to adequately assess their strength and capabilities. Choleric can literally throw from one extreme to another, and melancholic mostly - people with low self-esteem significantly.

The main thing - to love yourself

So what should be done to improve the self-esteem? According to psychologists, we can confine ourselves to start and relatively simple "training". First of all, we should get rid of the addiction to compare yourself with others. It is always there, surrounded by those who have something will be more successful and more successful. And the endless comparisons will only lead to an increase in the number of opponents, and even outright enemies near you.

Needless to engage in soul-searching and self-flagellation endless. It is not possible to develop a high level of self-esteem, if all the time to scold and blame themselves for certain offenses. Self-deprecating comments are unacceptable or concerning their appearance, nor in respect of their career, financial condition, physical and mental abilities, and all other aspects of life.

All the compliments and congratulations must be able to take for granted, and to respond to them with gratitude. To anything to show his embarrassment in front of compliments Compliments   and respond to something like "not worth it" or "nothing special." Such responses indicate only that the person considers himself unworthy of praise, and thus creates favorable conditions for the development of low self-esteem.

More positive

One of the most effective ways to help raise self-esteem, is to communicate as much as possible with a large number of successful and confident people. Equally important, and regular communication with those who are ready to support all your endeavors. But the environment, consisting of a negative-minded people allow themselves to harsh criticism on any occasion in your address and overwhelming all your ideas, is strictly avoided.

Other small "exercise" to improve self-esteem is to look for a more positive qualities and celebrate all your achievements. The last is not necessarily must be some particularly significant. Suit and those who took at least a small moral satisfaction: for example, it could be a driver's license, a visit to the gym and so on. Each new item it will give you a new reason to be proud of themselves.

And low self-esteem is good "treated" as much as possible the desire to give to others, and here we are talking not about the material things. First of all, we are talking about real actions that will benefit others. Finally, the usual moral support given to another person - is also a small but confident step to increase their own self-esteem to the required level.

Svetlana Usankova

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