Cynicism is now in vogue. A cynic always easily gives the impression of an intelligent man who sees the root, it can not be fooled as some idealist. Sami cynics like to call themselves realists and claim that an impartial judge of the world. However, communication with cynical person leaves the discomfort. A life together with cynic - a direct path to depression Depression   and self-doubt.

What cynicism

In the IV century BC Cynics (or cynics in Latin transcription) called themselves philosophers, despised conventions and strive to achieve maximum simplification of life. They denied the ethical norms and social traditions, sought naturalness and even considered a boon illiteracy.

Over time, as it usually happens, the word "cynicism" has changed. Today, the so-called people who demonstratively ignore ethical and moral standards. Cynics denied pity, compassion and shame are for any deed basest motivation. Such people deny all "high" and reduce love to sex, thanks to the desire to benefit, sympathy for the dream to stand out against the background of those who are not so lucky. For the cynics are characterized by coarse wording and constant mockery of the fact that other expensive and important for others.

How to become cynics

Cynicism - child life experience, and the experience is not very favorable. What a lot of injustices and disappointments faced by the person, the greater the likelihood that it will become a cynic. Children's ideals are broken one after the other, and if one can not find new ideals or accept the world as it is, he begins to deny everything that was once important to him. And at the same time that it is important for others.

Pride - an essential companion cynicism. The man is not willing to admit their shortcomings or mistakes, it is easier to declare guilty of others, to find the cause of the failures in the imperfection of the world. As a rule, cynicism characteristic of adolescence, when he becomes a reaction to the change of identity. So many teens are protected from the world, which seems to them too hostile. Over time, many "outgrow" this world, others remain cynical forever.

To love cynic

Drinking cynics in society can be described as ambiguous. On the one hand, cynical and mocking behavior "high" usually cause protest and indignation of the people. On the other hand, moderate cynicism is often perceived as a sign of an outstanding intellect. Cynic seems a man who can not be deceived, because it is easy to discern through verbal peel the true essence of things. For such people, there is no authority, they trust only themselves, they are often ironic and quite interesting to talk to.

. However, these cynics - people in dialogue, rather unpleasant. Man is so constituted that it is necessary to believe in something, something (and someone respected), something to appreciate. Cynics constantly engaged devaluation of what is important to others, and make it not too tactfully as tact and delicacy to them are not the same value. As a result, after talking with many cynical sense of emptiness: life seems senseless and primitive, old values, cynically questioned, artificial and pathetic.

Cynics are very popular with the opposite sex. Many mistaken display of cynicism for signs of intelligence, the breadth of thinking, self-confidence - qualities traditionally attractive. Girls admire these qualities, including their signs of this man's character. However, many are deceiving themselves, believing that too with them a cynic will be different: it will open a tender and enthusiastic soul and show love for what he can do. Unfortunately, these expectations never come true, for the simple reason that the love for the cynic does not exist, it is simply incapable of such a feeling.

Happiness is a cynic

Can you be happy with a cynic? Romantic Special This just will not succeed: romanticism and cynicism are not compatible in principle. It is very difficult to deal with cynical and those who are not sufficiently confident. It is almost impossible to imagine an alliance idealist and a cynic.

For a while, next to the cynics may probably be the women who see their mission in saving her lover. Dreaming remake loved and warm his soul, they are able to endure years of his cynical antics and endure unpleasant remarks. But sooner or later they will realize that their efforts in vain. Chances to make of this cynic a sensitive and gentle person offensively small.

Perhaps success is the union of two cynics. Not the fact that such a relationship will be happy, because happiness is not conducive to cynicism. But at least two cynic will understand each other and feel comfortable enough together.

Living near a cynic could also a woman who is very sure of herself and does not need any kind was the support of a partner. These ladies will just turn a deaf ear cynical statements, remaining true to his ideals.

If a person is not a true cynic, the alliance with him is possible. Such people can be quite harsh in his judgments, but unlike the cynics true they have some principles and ideals capable of deep and strong feelings. In essence, it is the realists, who look at the world not through pink (as romance), but not through black (as cynics) points.

Maria Bykov

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