The expert channel "Home" family psychologist Family psychology: whether to resort to his aid?   Irina Obukhov knows holidays are not always accompanied by the clink of glasses and laughter. Some they associated with melancholy, sadness and loneliness. How to prepare for the meeting of the new years as his love, says Irina Obukhov.

For they love the holidays?   Behind the very atmosphere, a sense of feeling something. People love to give gifts and getting them. New Year's Day brings us back to childhood, and yet people so It arranged that it idealizes the past.

Holidays is primarily a feeling, but it is elementary cognitive process, which begins with the knowledge of the person of the surrounding world. All other more complex psychological processes - perception, thinking, feeling - it is based on feelings.

In everyday life, feeling included in a more complex process perception reflection phenomena in general. Thus sensation and perception together constitute a sensory activities designed to build a person adequate image of reality. For the correct construction this way of spending holidays and attitudes of play not the last role.

Yet why many do not like them? The reasons can and situational depth.

Situational, caused by our fatigue. The most common pre-holiday "nagging" not wanting to celebrate heard from men. They understand that the new year, it is end of the year, when leans a lot of different cases, it is necessary to sum up year, and here also have to think about gifts. When a person says that he does not I enjoy the holidays and had no festive mood, a protective reaction by even greater tiredness. Another thing, if there are deeper reasons - not progovorennye internal problems, which are exacerbated during the holidays.

With fatigue fight easier. As a rule, people are gradually drawn into the general merriment, and turmoil his blues away. With all the root causes of a lot more complicated. New Year and other family events from childhood. And the feeling, waiting for a miracle and turns into adulthood. If the holidays parents left child alone, and themselves left, it is natural in the consciousness of an adult sense of fixed loneliness Loneliness - this is not new, or why am I still alone? . Even if they have grown up and they have a big family still holiday is associated with loneliness, abandonment. Now look for a Toroni. Across the street December had first hung festive banners, escalate the situation holiday. But if a person is dissatisfied with something with his life, if he is alone, another reminder only aggravates his depression. Here for example, is very typical situation - a woman meets a man. He is not free. On weekdays it is a lot of time with her, but during the holidays, he should be with his family. A it .... she was alone, alone with his thoughts, without a loved one. There are people, who fear change. They were brought to this panic calls to say goodbye to the old year. They come for the new year with a dull deep depression Depression .

How to fight it? Try go to the mirror and smile to myself. I must say to himself: "All that you have in life is, that you made yourself, this should be happy, and if I something upsetting, I can not change it myself. "

We should listen to yourself. Sometimes you want to go to someone and there merge infected general merriment, and sometimes a celebration itself beloved. The main thing - to feel their desires. Because it is primarily all about your state of mind and what you feel about it. Do not posturing, demonstrating that you feel bad, do not inflate the condition. Comes out of it should be, based on their own feelings, desire. Do something that will bring you pleasure and will feast on your soul.

Who better to meet new Year?   With whom you are comfortable. It's a matter of family tradition.

Should I make a wish? Required! Zagadyvaya desire is nothing but a creating dominant. And this dominance will be with you the whole year and will be implemented, if you are of course very believe it.

New Year, however was like a fairy tale, we remember and always waiting for this miracle. We should not hide from myself and wait for the miracle. New Year - the ability to reset the burden of past problems. We always have a sense of wonder. In spite of everything, people are always It will be waiting for him. Whether we like it or not like, want or do not want to fear or not, but we all want the miraculous change. If very much believe in the miracle of it It will happen! And regardless of public holidays. You can also celebrate the good weather and the lack of it, the first day of winter and the last day weeks. The main thing - the mood! Correctly say: "Life - not the days that I spent, and those that are remembered. "

According to the press-service channel "Home"

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