Although the phenomenon is not new, emotional infidelity is increasingly mentioned recently, thanks to the development of new communications technologies. In addition, it is undoubtedly a reflection of the general freedom of manners. With sexual infidelity is quite simple - a person goes beyond ongoing relationship and sexual contact with another partner. Although the effects are similar, emotional infidelity - a vague concept, because it does not simply means sexual or romantic relationship.

What is emotional infidelity

The concept of emotional infidelity can be applied to a platonic relationship with a person of the opposite or same sex, but also to employment, work, former lover, siblings, other family members, hobbies, and even children.

Emotional infidelity - is any situation that creates or causes some emotional unavailability of one of the partners, affecting some aspect of the relationship, as well as on the quality of the relationship as a whole.

Obviously, the most visible kind of emotional infidelity - one that involves another person or psevdoseksualnye psevdoromanticheskie relationship, near or at a distance.

There are two remarkable things.

• The first - the nature of communication and the ability to communicate with anyone, anywhere has significantly expanded the range of possibilities. Human nature is such that when the opportunity for a certain behavior becomes greater, and the incentive for such behavior for any reason, is not controlled, people certainly use this opportunity. And Infidelity usually occurs due to possible coincidence
• The second - a new variation sayings "rarely see more than love." Constant maintenance of communication strengthens relationships and contributes to their distortion. If the lack of a real lover Lover: the real situation   increases the desire, the lover a permanent position at a distance relationships can turn into a drug.

Motivation

So, we have the means and opportunities, what is the motive? Apart from the obvious motivation, which can be a person to enter into an extramarital affair, there are two important motives for situations emotional infidelity - fear and security. Fear of being caught, if the "do something" in conjunction with security, because people supposedly did not commit.

In terms of risk management, emotional infidelity is very logical. On the one hand, you will not catch the "crime scene" with his secretary or coach. On the other, you're not going to actually start a romance with virtual friends from Boston, when you have a husband, children and work in Cincinnati? It's not like - it's a built-in stopper.

In any case, emotional infidelity - is an expression of the need or the desire to move away from basic relations, without breaking them.

In this sense the key, which determines the emotional infidelity as inaccurate, but, at least, the social equivalent of sexual infidelity.

What changes

It does not matter whether you are entering into a physical relationship with another person when you are moving away from the basic relationship, you shift the focus to the relationship, and it can not influence on them. The perfect picture of it in the movie - the relationship between character Hilary Swank and her husband in the movie "Freedom Writers." She did not meet his needs, because busy with his disciples, and in the end he leaves her.

What really complicates the situation - "changing" partner does not feel that he violates any obligation, does something because he "does not do anything", that is, it does not enter into a sexual relationship. Even if there is some "signs of crime", such as a letter or sms, in the presentation of "changing" nothing serious happens. This leads to the fact that the partner is in an unexpected position - he's going through all the resentment, anger and a sense of exclusion because of infidelity Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself?   partner, and "changing" considers that it is in no way to blame.

We are taught from early childhood that actions lead to consequences. Most of us understand that, but if you "do not do anything," why this should be the consequences?

Sometimes morals is gradually transformed into moral relativism, which allows, for example, stealing stationery from work. Who thus suffers? In general, no, but it's still theft. And in the case of emotional infidelity, you are robbing yourself.

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