He do not need, and it's obvious to everyone but himself. The phrase, which once forced a sweet stopping your heart: "Do you want to be loved - love!" Begins to annoy you terribly. Is this type of thinking that can achieve something its persistence? What nonsense! Well, nothing, except anger, his stubborn courtship does not awaken in you. It does not matter who he is: a neighbor on the porch, or a colleague or an old friend, who suddenly something clicked in the brain, or just your ex, does not realize that between you all over, - techniques to which he uses to break down your resistance, standard (standard output of itself). Here's what it does:

He says that he would die without you

Do not be so naive! If people actually died of unrequited love - the planet would have long since deserted. My "ex" is also swore that he would not survive our break, and he succeeded long enough to drive me around by the nose. Then I finally decided to take the fateful step, realizing that without a corpse and not do so, but only if we stay together, it would be my dead body. Feeling like a real killer, wild feeling remorse, I sent him to hell, and waited, and when he will fulfill his promise and die, leaving me executions and cry. Sobbing on the phone lasted for almost a week, and a month later he was walking arm in arm with some jerk asks.

Interviews with friends revealed that happened to them the same. Ex-husbands and boyfriends, threatening to commit suicide if they neglect, found consolation at the latest six months. And then they still have to thank my ex-girlfriend because she gave him, because now he has finally found his true happiness! In short, if he says that you're killing him with its coldness, do not give in to blackmail. I tell him I'm sure you - a real man with dignity and meet the inevitable. Say you're sure that it does not make you suffer the pangs of conscience that is proud and courageous. Say: I always knew that you - not like anything you have - a strong, you can carry! Let touched by his generosity - it will distract him from savoring the pangs of unrequited love.

He pretends not to understand Russian words

Yesterday you were, like, everything is discussed and how you seemed to understand each other. You told him that you do not approach each other, he has to find another woman, which is ... blah blah blah ... And he replied that he understands that he will try to keep that one him not to replace you, but ... blah blah blah ... And I was buying men's tears, kativshayasya of unshaven cheek, and you, in a fit of compassion and admiration for his generosity, flung her arms around him, and promised myself that you come to pick up their belongings and bring it to the letter.

And now comes today, and you come to him with letters and appropriately sad, sympathetic expression on his face, and he calmly smacking you on the cheek and happily reports that called Vadik, they Irishev invite you to visit, and he said that you're bound to come, and even called your boss lied, you feel bad and asked to let you go to work early .   You are being attacked tetanus and easy feeling of split personality: You do remember that you broke up yesterday .   Or is it your dream come to life you manage only away .  There you do not behave quite adequately, so that even Irisha assigns you to one side and conspiratorial whisper asked not pregnant are you, and that is something very nervous? On the way home you're trying to repeat yesterday's conversation, and remind him that - whatever the end, you're the wrong people! And he's, like, again, understands and droops, and nods, and lets a tear, said he agrees that you should really leave, agrees that tomorrow you yourself zaedesh and you bring his stuff .   And tomorrow it all starts on the new .  And to break this vicious circle can only be abruptly and rudely .  Stop to see him, even accidentally .

I am trying to bribe you

Should you give a hint that you need something - he was right there, always ready to offer assistance. You urgently need to go to the hospital on the opposite side of town? Of course, he will take you. You do not know how to fill out this form? So he quickly explained to you now! I forgot to house the paper? Here you are, he has a copy. Who will help to paint a wall newspaper for the new year? Of course it is! You need a phone number express mail? Here's telefonchik! Madly want ice cream? Here's your ice cream!

I do not understand how you lived up to his age without his tireless support and constant care? And what will happen to you if you leave it unattended? Who will help you put on a fur coat who will speak with the head of an auto repair shop who will advise how to choose a music center, who will show how to install a filter on your email program, because you do not know anything about computers? And like, he asks nothing in return, just wants to be helpful, it is very nice! That's just why you constantly feel as set out in the moral position of the debtor? .. I want to be indulgent, because I do not want to be ungrateful? In the end, it does so much for you, how can you be with him harsh and unkind ?! It is not good to answer indifference to the sincere help? So what's the deal? Accept it and Services otdarivay equivalent! For assistance agreed to pay counter service, but not the body and soul!

Haunt you

Of course, civilized countries, for it can be brought to trial. Even at the threshold of flowers and cards in the mail it is possible to sue. It's considered to be sexual harassment and invasion of privacy. But in our country the woman as she was, and remains a creature who does not have his own personal life.

If a man pays attention to you, you're not outraged, and should be happy! Stalking you every day at the outlet from work? - Great! Calls for twenty times a day? - cool! He walks behind you like sewn? - Well, why are you still need, devonka? You can only envy, and if his behavior is something stopping you - then you ought to treat nerves. How can you be angry at a fan ?! This is the same - love, and love has its rights! ..

So, quite officially announce: Love has no rights, contrary to the constitution. And you are not obliged to be grateful for what's stopping you live in peace. A foreign person does not have rights to your time, do not have the right to try to find out where you come in, and where we are heading, may not require you to pay special attention to his person only on the basis that it has managed to fall in love with you. And if he does not understand, is not a sin to use of force. Require him to you from behind. Do not lag behind: threatened to sue. It will not help: Go to the police station and say that you were pursuing a maniac. The very fact support his idol to the district department of the Interior Ministry, as a rule, have a strong educational impact on the annoying fan.

How to fight it?

First, decide for yourself the most important thing: do you want to get rid of the fan, or just want to talk about it in the company of friends? If the second - in any case, do not do what is written below, because, God forbid, he is really from you fall behind: then have him run itself ... Well, if you really do not want any more see him or hear his love declarations, nor accept his wacky gifts or stumble around on his faithful dog eyes ... Well, we dare to start a klutz on all fronts. Henceforth, in communion with him to adhere to such principles:

• never go to make concessions: it is necessary once succumb to weakness of character, the next day it will require more;
• do not give in to blackmail, say to him in the face of all that you think of his methods of intimidation;
• do not be lazy to say that you do not need it;
• whip up a sense of guilt: you are not guilty, that he is in love with you, and do not bear any responsibility for it;
• Do not accept gifts: This is the most frank bribery, even if offered a gift "to the case" or "over";
• not abuse his complaisance: beware, as if he did not you needed;
• demonstrate affection to another man, no love will not stand the daily kind of happiness bestowed opponent.

Yulia Bolshakov

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