There is a famous anecdote. The man asked, his work is satisfactory. He confidently replied that yes, they say, perfectly. And why are you so confidently say, surprised asks. "Judge for yourself: when I go to work, then at the sight of a pretty girl feel excited. But when I return, then in front of me put them at least a dozen - zero emotion. So, I work perfectly." It's funny and sad, but true ...

The word "sublimation" comes from the Latin sublimare - "to offer" .  The man who refuses to have sex in favor of other, mostly mental, activities, how would ascend over their carnal desires .  With sublimation we face as a teenager, when his parents at the first sign of interest in the opposite sex begin to download our studies, sports - just not sat around .  We just do not give heed to your body and understand what he wants .  Even then laid habit translate sexual energy into other activities, to extinguish it in all possible ways .  Some sneaked then this habit throughout his life .  At the same time they can be the most powerful sexual potential - they just do not know how to properly use .  Once a man or woman of this type such things feel a specific emotion, they immediately rush .   but not on the bed of love .  Instead, they urgently deploy any intense activity .  And why? Before, because they know the only way to get rid of such a scope of their desire . 

Natasha, consisting of five years of marriage, complains that her husband Ivan perfect, does not know how to relax and have fun .  "In any situation he seeks possible to download yourself some work - she says .  For example, if it hits at a party, then be assured - he or will the music for dancing, and all will start to take pictures, or the hostess will help wash the dishes .  This is not because he is timid and shy .   "Of course, this approach is reflected in the satisfaction of their sexual relationship .  Ivan seemed afraid of them .  If we manage to lure him to his wife in bed, it tends to quickly finish the act of love .  Stiffness and unwillingness to enjoy sex leads to the fact that he did not allow her to fondle himself - although he always does what she asks him .   Sublimation looks sad when she dedicated men, but even more the situation becomes painful when women begin to sublimate, which - alas! - A phenomenon not uncommon today .  And here it is not just laid in childhood stereotypes of "maturity" of sexual impulses . 

Women's sublimation, according to psychologists, often stems, ironically, from a severe lack of confidence in its feminine appeal, from his "unclaimed-sti" the opposite sex. The woman is left with no choice but to say: "And on the other hand I have a job ..." - and to focus exclusively on this activity. And then a vicious circle: the sublimation comes from non-established personal life, but it also causes a greater female fenced off from the outside world, to build on the capabilities of their own happiness, and what is fraught with this, and there is no need: to say ... In the case of Natasha Ivan and yet all seems lost. Ivan, at least not consciously refused to have sex yet, he needed just a little help.:; Maybe Ivan should not even turn to a psychologist to help him reveal inherent in childhood thresholds his sexual education.

Happiness is only in labor?

Apparently, parents, eager to discourage the boy from the street, from the too early sexual experience, a little bit overdone this, As a result, he is firmly entrenched stereotype that sex - it's bad and ashamed, and any impulses of the body is necessary to mute reading and useful work. As a student, the young man threw himself v..uchebu successfully translated! sexual energy into thrust class, the good, the ground was fertile ... Natasha had no idea that she would have a long time to work on her husband. It is hoped that when it gets its way, it will be Ivan sincerely grateful. After all, sex - it is a gift of nature. And, to abandon it, we must have good reason.

Dmitry Sapozhnikov

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