What woman does not dream about that when he got home from work she did not have to deal with preparing dinner What to cook for dinner: the eternal question   or cleaning the apartment? And it would be great if it came home, and there is all done for you by your husband. Is it possible to achieve in order to teach her husband to help with the housework, and thus absolve themselves of at least a part of household responsibilities?

True to life

It is known that most women try to teach her husband to help them at home, using arguments and bickering. But you can try to do it differently. It is only necessary to know how.

Men do not tend to focus on the household chores as it is peculiar to women. Of course, most men love to their home was clean and comfortable, but they rarely are making this effort.

This does not mean that a woman should do all the housework herself. It may be responsible for most of the household chores, but to ask the spouse to take part in it and to do all possible for him homework. How would a woman may try to convince the public that household duties should be shared equally between the spouses, still most of the cases they have to do yourself.

Very rare men who can easily perform housework and with the responsibility to treat this, the majority of them believe that work exclusively female. At the same time, most of the men gladly do the work in the garden or in the yard, something repair and so on. It is important for a woman to appreciate this work and show their appreciation to the men for everything that he does.

As practice shows, if the man politely asked to do some work around the house and do not criticize him then, he would willingly help his wife with the housework. Additionally, you can choose to offer his wife that he would like to do at home. For men, it is important to realize that he is doing something around the house, not because he is forced to, but because he was politely asked to help or because he wants to please his wife. But he is unlikely to be doing something just for the sake of the household.

How to ask for help

How to ask the right man for help, he did not refuse to help you with the housework?

• First, you need to ask politely and without criticism, as, for example: you never do anything around the house. You are lazy! As a result, you are angry husband or made to feel guilty. But help in this case, you will not wait on him.
• Secondly, it shows a man that without him you can not do.
• Third, give him a chance to speak about this calmly and listen to his proposals, if they have one.

Advice:

• Try to ask her husband for help, and even gently playful, focusing on how much it means to you what he is doing or will do.
• Do not start a serious conversation on the topic of your spouse's participation in domestic affairs, otherwise it will avoid this unpleasant situation for him. Instead, ask them for help as if in passing, you'll both be busy with something.
• If your husband does something wrong, in any case, do not criticize it, and quietly fix all his errors. Do not forget to praise him for the help anyway.
• Do not think that your husband does not appreciate all that you do at home. If you can not
• Wait on him for help, just ask for it and let him know that you are very hard to deal with everything alone.
• To make chores pleasant and arrange a time when you can do it together. So you will be able to motivate and encourage each other.
• Do not try to point to her husband, how to do a particular job. Give him the opportunity to do everything the way you want it. After all, people think they can do everything better than the others. In addition, you can also learn from him something.
• When you praise for the work of her husband, do not overdo it, otherwise it feels false.

But if your husband will deny you help around the house, try to make him understand that, too, is only going to do our part, for example, will only wash the dishes or wash themselves after only their belongings.

Do not forget that the ideal marriage is a partnership, where all responsibilities concerning finance, education of children, including the duties associated with the household chores should be divided equally between both spouses .  And although in practice most often the case that the primary duty of the husband, in his opinion - is to make money, and the rest falls on the shoulders of women, although most women now earn as much and sometimes even more than men .  So do not be afraid to ask my husband for help with the housework .  But at the same time, do not expect instant changes from it .  In fact, from the men did not have to deal with homework over the past few centuries, so please be patient .  And do not forget to think about how you will reward her husband for help .  This can be a dinner together at a restaurant or cook him his favorite dish at home .  The main thing that it was sincere and you will not notice how over time your spouse will be happy to help you around the house, knowing that it is waiting for a good reward .

Be careful not to take on too much of her husband's household responsibilities, as this will reduce his self-esteem as well as your respect for him as a representative of the "stronger sex". In all should be the measure.

Another important piece of advice - if your family has a son, do not be afraid to bring him from childhood to help around the house. Do not think that because he grow up "rag." If a child will be a boy accustomed to the fact that my mother needed help, then it will have no difficulty to help, and then his wife.

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