Preparations for the wedding - one of the most important and stressful, but, at the same time, interesting periods for the newlyweds ... So much to catch: choose a dress, suit, wedding venue, theme, make a list guests, menu, come up with an entertainment program ... in short, a solid mess. And if you're planning a wedding in the best Russian tradition, then, to all this, exacerbated by the inclusion of tough rehearsal schedule of various traditional events, such as matchmaking.

Matchmaking - is a wedding ceremony in which turned out prior consent of the relatives of the bride at a wedding. It has become a tradition with long time, and then took a slightly different scenario than now.

Knowing more than one dozen rules and take related to observance of the pre-wedding ceremony, matchmaker and \ or Swat have been achieved location of the girl's parents to marry her to a certain young human. And, often, it all happened in secret from the bride - she did not know who comes to woo her and whose parents and other family will choose her groom.

And it happened like this: the bride's house came "bidder" by matchmaker \ matchmaker to help, sometimes it was alleged by the parents groom, his relatives or friends. Talk with the bride's parents started distance ... it would take a lot of visits to visit them, so they gave final answer. One would immediately reject the applicant, but to accept after the first visit was considered a sign of bad manners and parents, consequently, the bride herself, and disregard the rules of etiquette ... In the case of failure matchmakers closed the door back - it was thought that it would be discourage further to go the girl married. If the parents of the future son-liked, they took him bread and cut it into as many parts as relatives present in the the house at the moment, in agreement. After that date prescribed Handshake - roughly speaking, the time to discuss all the details about the organization wedding.

There is another interpretation of the matchmaking, bears, rather significant-public character, rather than a serious and life-changing event ... the scenario of such matchmaking options you can find a great variety. By the way, distinguishes this type of matchmaking from all others not only comic value, but also that it held on the day of the wedding Wedding - it is worth it to hurry up?   or the wedding itself.

The bottom line is this: the bride and groom choose their by matchmaker \ Swat, one of whom is trying to help the bride price, and the other does not give it, or "sell" as much as possible profitable. Hence the saying: "You - the goods, we have - a merchant." Matchmaker by the groom with him, his parents and other relatives come to woo the house the bride, where they, in turn, is already waiting for the matchmaker from the bride, groom just that you do not want to "give" the bride and her relatives. After many trades, different contests and tricky questions newlyweds bride still buys her lover and they are already together, still fun.

Select matchmaker suggested carefully. This can be both Professional matchmaker offering their services, for example, in the marriage agency, or simply familiar with enormous charisma, positive and sense of humor. After all, as this entertaining version of matchmaking, then it should take place in a fun and relaxed atmosphere.

And the third type of matchmaking - a modern model of the first option. To approach this event should be taken seriously ... If the couple adhere to traditional moral principles and consider it necessary to ask parental consent to the marriage, the need ... woo! First woos a young man in the house of parents of the bride. It is advisable that before this event the bride mentally prepared parents, something would house was a relaxed atmosphere. Beloved comes to visit, presenting the bride and her mother a bouquet of flowers. This etiquette. Further, for a casual conversation, he talks about his feelings for his daughter, plans for the future with her and asks for her hand and heart in parents ...

If all went well, then comes the turn of the bride woo the parents of the groom. Instead of a bouquet of flowers future mother in law In-law - a hunting accident ...   completely You can present a box of expensive chocolates or a big cake (pre- learn whether the family loves the beloved sweet). The first began to talk about their feelings should also be a young man ... he talks about his feelings, as plans for the future, and then ask the lovers with their parents' consent legalize their relationship.

Further, according to the classical scenario is familiar parents and discussion with all the details of the upcoming wedding. However, taking into account the fact that today it is in principle not required, and the organization of the wedding can be marriage agencies do, it is quite possible introduction of parents directly at the wedding...

Anna Thomen

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