Etiquette was the glue that binds together the society. It allows people to communicate with friends or neighbors, without offending them, and harmlessly. Unfortunately, those days are gone. Pay attention to the ten best rules of etiquette, which undeservedly forgotten. Perhaps it will inspire someone to revive them.

Male suit for wedding

This item is not so much about manners, and of the correct clothes. Firstly, if the wedding takes place before 18.00, you should not wear a tuxedo (black tie) or a tailcoat (white tie). It should be put on a formal suit or - if you want to completely follow traditions - a business card. There is a tradition that the groom ties gives to all men at the wedding. If a man dressed in costumes, give them similar but not exactly the same ties. So it will be clear that all participants of the celebration, but nevertheless they will not look like a church choir. If the wedding is after 18.00, you can wear a tuxedo or suit, it's evening gowns.

To open the door

In the old days always a gentleman opened the door for a lady. It does not matter whether it is his companion, coming out of the machine, or a stranger entering the building. Now, this tradition has almost disappeared - and the blame for this, not only by men. Sometimes women laugh at men who opened the door for them. They seem to confuse a good education, and chauvinism. In this case, the best - smile and still open the door.

Write thank-you notes

Previously, each time a person receives a gift, it must be to write thank-you note as soon as possible. This rule applies even gifts to relatives. After a birthday or Christmas parents seated children and taught them to write thank-you notes. It is unfortunate that now gifts have become virtually mandatory, and the idea of ​​writing thanks seems ridiculous. Even if the rest of the listed items you ignore, teach your children to write thank-you notes - so they will learn to appreciate the gifts received.

Do not ask for gifts

When people celebrate a wedding or party carried on a special occasion, they did not have to make a list of gifts. After all, this is tantamount to ensuring that ask people to give presents - and it is considered very rude, even in our time. But at the same time, a rough indication would like "gifts are not necessary," because it indicates that the gifts are generally expected, no matter how long a guest. People think that it's okay as long as they include a list of some cheap gifts to balance the huge number of expensive gifts! Wedding invitations should not mention gifts - they do not have to ask for and do not write nonsense like "no gifts! "Or even worse" make a donation (more should be instructed to no one known charitable organization) instead of gifts. "

To leave on time

We seem to have completely forgotten about when to leave the party. People go away when they are bored, when they want to have time for another event, they drank too much when they have drunk too little - an infinite number of reasons. Earlier on any holiday was the guest of honor - usually the eldest of the women present. It was considered very rude to leave before the guest of honor. But after leaving the guest of honor, the other guests had to take it as a signal that it is also time to start getting ready. Probably right about when it's time to leave, lost, forgotten because the very concept of a guest of honor.

Arrive on time

This rule may create a couple of the previous one. Previously, it was not accepted late. There was no "decent late." Always impolite to be late. In most homes, the guest was invited to dinner, and late for 15 minutes, it could result in a dinner with the servants in the kitchen. And join the hosts he could only when guests are polite (come on time) left.

Dinner

About the forgotten rules of etiquette associated with dinner, you could write the book: first, people dressed for dinner and were all together at the same table. Fancy clothes emphasized the importance of family and healthy food. It is not surprising that now, when we consume food in front of the TV and eat at different times, we have more and more problems with excess weight.

Unity parents

From the "manner on every day," Emily Post:

Parents should never disagree with the children. It's just impossible. Also, the child can not ask one parent that the other does not permit.

- Dad told me to jump into the well!

- Then you should do it, dear. "

This is the only possible answer to the mother. Once a child will jump into the well, it can get him out, and privately to tell her father that she thinks of such instructions. But as long as the parents live under the same roof, they must have unity of opinion if they speak with witnesses.

Discretion on the street

This is one of the most ignored rule: before the people on the street dressed discreetly, speaking cautiously and did not do anything that would attract outside attention. It was forbidden to talk on the street to mention the names of friends, as it imprudently. A gentleman always walked on the sidewalk near the roadway, to block the lady of splashes. People did not see and did not speak to passers-by, and no one would shout to my friend walking on the other side of the street.

Talking about money

A gentleman never:

• Do not take Beret - a symbol of French charm   It borrows money from a lady.
• It does not take the money borrowed from a man with no certainty that he would give them as quickly as possible.
• Do not discuss money.
• Do not discuss your belongings and their value.
• Do not dispose of names: "When I had dinner with Mr. rich ...", "We are close friends with Miss millionaire ..."

On the other hand, the gentleman takes the debts of the deceased family member, as a debt of honor. How far we have come from that! Money and the race for wealth became so evident today that there was even a term - the conspicuous consumption.

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