Today, more women are not married and do not enter into long-term relationships with men not because of a lack of suitable candidates, but by choice. The presence of her husband is no longer necessary for a happy, fulfilling life; single woman can not be afraid of starving to death - it is able to make itself at all necessary. Moreover, it becomes more and more women who believe marriage is a hindrance happiness and prefer to be alone.

If desired, one woman can give birth and raise a child - it's long been condemned by society. Of course, there are still many countries where the situation is the opposite, but in the western hemisphere, everything is just so. However, in living alone Loneliness - this is not new, or why am I still alone?   there are both positive and negative sides.

The benefits of living alone

• Your time - only yours. Have you ever tried to organize a trip to the bar or restaurant (not to mention the nightclub) with married friends, especially those who have children? If so, you probably know that it - almost an impossible task. Married women must not only work (as most of them are married, continue to build a career), but also to cook, do the cleaning, ironing clothes for herself and her husband, and when there are children, the number of duty increases, at least twice. Do single women have no such problems: they go where they want when they want, they can spend the evening reading a book, talking with a friend can go to the pool or the spa, and can just go to bed early.
• Your money - only your. Family woman can not spend their salaries only at its own discretion - it should always be mindful of the family budget. If you live alone, after paying the bills, you are absolutely free to choose how to spend the money - to pay for dance lessons, a new computer, clothes, countryside tour over the weekend or perhaps a donation to the fund, which has been helping children from poor families . No one will ask you, what happened to the money, and will not teach you how to manage their finances.
• The ability to know yourself .  Many women identify themselves with the roles of wife and mother, forgetting - or not knowing - about who they are outside of these roles .  Life alone gives you an opportunity to get to know yourself .  For example, try to understand what you want out of life what you have learned in the past and how you can use these lessons in the future, what are your personal views on morality (and do not worry if they are somewhat different from conventional notions), what are your main strengths and weaknesses that cause you the most powerful pleasure, and that leads you into a frenzy, and so on .  Know yourself, you can set a goal to meet your current needs, develop their talents .  In addition, life alone will allow you to cope with many difficulties on their own and realize how strong you really are .  This will significantly reduce the likelihood that in the future you will start a relationship with someone just for the sake of being alone - on the contrary, you'll know exactly what you can live very well on its own, and if you choose to be with someone, then just to make your life better .
• The ability to find their friends. As long as you live alone, you have a wonderful opportunity to devote more time to his friends, to travel with them, attend various events, courses, and so on. Joint activities are known, it brings together and allows us to see different facets of human nature. A really close relationship with friends, however, and perhaps more important than the relationship with a man. In the end, friendship is often more durable than love, so to get to know his friends must use.
• The ability to find his family. If you have followed the path that women are still considered traditional, and married soon after they became an adult, your new family began to have priority and, most likely, you have not had a chance to fully communicate with their parents, brothers, sisters and other relatives. Meanwhile, communicating with them in their adult life very different from communicating during childhood and teenage years. Women often admit that they really became close with their parents only when grown up, because then you can communicate with them on equal terms, more openly, without fear of punishment, as it happens in childhood.
• Freedom to build a career. Lonely woman can devote plenty of energy and time career. She can not afford to make decisions that would be difficult to implement, whether in her family - for example, get another degree, change jobs or move to another country. In addition, a free woman can stay at work late and go on business trips without fear that it is bad for her family life: the decisions that it takes only affect her.
• Travels. When you are free, you have the opportunity to travel anywhere and with anyone; you have nothing to limit (other than the budget, of course) in the choice of routes and places. You can travel with your friends, with the people, whom he met through the Internet, or alone, you can make new friends along the way, spontaneously change the route and not think about how not to forget the evening call to her husband, to whom you have daily report on that you're all right.
• The ability to decide what you want from a partner. Living alone, you can easily analyze your previous relationship, to communicate with different men and decide how you want your future partner. Of course, if you require the potential mates to their full compliance with the requirements of the list, you will almost certainly be left alone, but it is quite possible - and even necessary - to determine what traits in men for you are the most important, and what - is totally unacceptable. Understand what you really want will help you avoid mistakes in future relations.

Disadvantages of living alone

• Pressure from others. Despite the fact that today more and more women are living without a good ongoing relationship with men in the world are still many people who believe it is abnormal; it is possible that there are such people among your relatives. Persistent questions about how and when you finally get married and give birth to a child, often poisoning the festive family dinners single women.
• Lack of support - both financial and moral. Lonely woman has to pay for all the bills, and her no one to insure in the event of job loss or long-term illness. In addition, every woman who lives alone, there are days when she needed to talk to someone about your problems, but no one is around: friends and family can be occupied, but no one at home waiting. How is a woman to cope with such situations, it depends on the type of personality: some lack of support can break, others - do even more.
• The feeling of loneliness. If you are the type of people who are struggling to withstand even a couple of hours without any human society living alone will be for you a very difficult test. To cope with loneliness, you need to keep in touch with friends, make new acquaintances, as often as possible to go on a variety of activities. However, quite a few women who like to be in solitude for a long time - for their free life may be the only way to be truly happy.
• Problems with the education of children - one of the most obvious shortcomings of life in solitude. If you get pregnant How to Get Pregnant: Recommendations to help   and give birth to a free woman - not a problem, the process of education is often associated with a large number of financial and other problems than married women. However, many women, it does not stop, and they give birth to children and bring them safely without the help of his father.

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