Civil marriage: some details

Hundreds of years ago, sex is permitted only after the wedding that the youth did not violate the rules, the morning after the wedding night sheets hung out to prove the innocence of the bride (in some eastern countries, so until now, by the way, do). Time goes by, and customs are changing - we live in a free and now the XXI century not to have sex before marriage for many ridiculous.

Weddings, too, as there are none: no white bride's dress, groom without tuxedos - quietly come to the registrar, painted and peacefully celebrate this event in a close circle of friends. However, such a minority, and the majority do not go to the registry office, and just live together - a civil marriage. What is it - a tradition, usually a new trend of fashion or another consequence of democracy - will understand. Some say - "Civil marriage - it is wrong, it does not give any guarantees - the feelings will go away, and from your family life will be only collected a suitcase with things, your things." While she does not interfere with the proposal to live together, it is this opinion, but as soon as it becomes law wife, she begins to speak in a different way. "There is no stamp, but so what? What does it change? If we do everything right? "

In essence, a civil marriage is still the same as the official, except for the stamp in the passport. But not to be unfounded, put all on the shelves, and understand, whether the right of civil marriage opponents, denying it. What is a civil marriage - the right approach to family life or another reason not to start a family? The denial of such a marriage - vestiges of the past, or a sober view of things?

Civil marriage or wedding

Marriage begins in the registry office. Wedding, bride Bride price: Russian tradition and world practice , Drinking festivities for two days. Today, many of the white dress and do not wear, what to say about all of these attributes. Therefore, sunset festivities to friends about your life together - a small problem, you can even wear a white dress. All the impression that you were married and you insure against default girlish dreams, in case you decide to sign for 20 years and the white dress would be inappropriate.

What you'll be deprived of - oration strict aunties and ads you husband and wife. After watching her friends, I came to the conclusion that, probably, the procedure still exciting, once girls are so red and even men are worried. But this speech you can hear the same emotion and much later.

Cohabitation - living together on housing, both owned

I must say this is the most powerful argument of opponents, and against him as they say nothing to cover. While living in a civil marriage, you do not have any rights to marital property. The words "I'm sure it" will not help. Millions of couples getting married, and believe me, they are sure not to divorce. None of them are not thinking about divorce. Only when they get divorced, even if scandals, each insured against grim prospects of being left with nothing. From your family life as a result of divorce will remain only memories.

In addition to the wedding often give the apartment - you will be deprived of such gifts from time to time. Even if you and perepadet apartment from the parents of one of the sides, and it will belong to the other side, because you are not what rights it will be, but there will be an elementary account is impossible. In all other respects the same things - laundry, ironing, kitchen with pots and lack of a caring mother.

Civil marriage and responsibility

Marriage - a responsible business. Personally, I think that this feeling or have a person in relation to his pair or not - a stamp here is not important. If you bring this matter to the statistics, I do not be surprised if some men are not responsible ringed there exists more. The degree of responsibility plays a role except that when deciding to marry. On civil marriage men are more willing to make any proposals do not need no vows of eternal love and fidelity.

It is believed that the stamp more and binds to the human family. Do not tell me - if they do not keep the children home, what can I say about the stamps. Of course, in Muslim countries, men hold the view that the wife of one - it is the mistress, the mother of their children, etc., and can be a lot of mistresses somewhere and wives. But we're living in Russia - where the word "freedom" is meant literally. And whether or not to stamp in the passport - few people care about.

Civil marriage - a view from outside

Emerged from the registrar and referred to perceive couple husband and wife, and nothing else. Girls who are sympathetic to your husband would call him married, and your fans will call you married. The civil marriage is usually a woman considers herself married, and the man free. Units of the men called his mistress and his wife. Others will say about you - "live together", "they have all seriously" and so on, but never "they are married." Not for nothing is always when it comes to the status update is that they live in a civil marriage. Notice when people painted and wedded, they do not clarify what they wed. Consequently, the degree of marriage is only relevant when it is smaller than the norm.

Again, a divorce - status divorced woman, and she has a document confirming. After parting with civil spouse, do you still behind some lasting relationship. Do not forget, we live in a bureaucratic country where the document has a value even in a relationship.

But this is all the consequences that can be solved with a simple way - to go and sign, no matter how much you have not lived together. In addition, if you are so worried about your attitude towards others, then why did not really do it?

As a rule, there is always a reason why you want to live without the stamp:

• financial problems;
• feelings of uncertainty;
• combating stereotypes (you do so well, you live and die without an evil society);
• elementary habit - lived together in the beginning - as it so happened, gradually moved in with him, and now everything is delayed and delayed - up with other problems.

All problems can be solved, but one - you do not believe in each other. Often people begin to live together, because it is not yet assured of their readiness for marriage. In this case, the important thing is not to delay and do not cheat yourself and your mate. Civil marriage - is the transition from your romantic relationship to the family. As an intermediary, as the next stage of development of relations. But he can not be the final (unless, of course, after you have not consumed), it can not last forever.

If you are confident in each other, and your level of trust in relations allows not to think about all the formalities such as registration and the right to property - the live and do not pay attention to others, and let zaobsuzhdayutsya zaosuzhdayutsya. Half of it is not in a passport, and a heart. Therefore, the main thing that you have for each other husband and wife in heart, not on paper. If a person makes a choice, he makes his heart, if he makes a mistake with the choice, and then meet your soul mate - it will not be able to hold any punches.

Lyudmila Beshirova specifically for the Women's Club

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