Nevzaimnaya love - a drama that ever happens in the lives of most people. Someone experienced the love of inaccessible objects (for example, a married man), and someone was in a relationship with a man who only allows himself to love, but did not like myself. Many cases be the subject of a non-reciprocal love - and it is only slightly easier than love itself, and does not meet the response of feelings.

How do you know that your love is non-reciprocal

If the one in whom you are in love, simply refused to meet with you, everything is clear: it simply does not respond to you in return. But it also happens that between the people began a relationship, and one of them plagued by doubts about the feelings of the partner. The following symptoms in most cases, say that you love, and only allows a partner to love yourself:

• Everything happens on your initiative. Did you invite him on the first date First date: everything is just beginning As well as second and third. You come up where you can go on the weekend, where dinner with anyone from friends to meet. He simply accepts, sometimes - refuse, but never takes the initiative.
• You are constantly wondering what it feels to you. If a question arises, then, partner often enough and clearly expresses his feelings, and maybe not talk about them at all. That person does not speak about feelings, often means that they simply do not.
• He never talks about the future. A man who loves his partner, wants to stay with him as long as possible, and says aloud about their intentions. If it does not, perhaps, in his plans for the future you will not find a place.
• He does not discuss with you in serious trouble. If you do not meet with the teenager, and an adult male, from time to time you should be talking to the serious topics that are important to both of you - for example, about your relationship to the family, the education of children, the division of responsibilities and so on. By their nature, women tend to start such conversations often than men, but if your partner never discuss serious issues and seeks to change the subject, if you start talking about them, most likely, he does not love you.
• In most cases, you are the initiator of communication. If not for your initiative, it would just met you a couple of times a week - most likely, only for sex. That you send him a message with the wishes of good morning or good night to call him to find out how the day went, and so on. You can console themselves with the thought that he had no time for calls, but in reality, if a man loves a woman, he wants to communicate with her and find a couple of minutes to call.
• You often hear "no" than "yes." A person who does not like to really rarely agrees to compromise and often allows himself to ignore the views of partners. If a man behaves with you that way, it means that he is not afraid to lose you and cherish you.

What to say when a non-reciprocal feelings

It so happens that you recognize love one to whom you are completely indifferent. Most people in these cases feel uncomfortable and want to give up as gently as possible without offending the person, but not giving false hopes. What can I say, if someone shows you a sense for which you can not reciprocate?

• Do not answer anything. This option is ideal if you have received an email or text message with an invitation for a date or romantic declarations. Silence - it's pretty tough, but very lucidly answer, which clearly will understand that from your side there is no reciprocal feelings.
• Tell the truth. In most cases, it is - the best way to respond to the person who hopelessly in love with you. No need to be rude or to humiliate a man; just tell him that does not feed him romantic feelings and do not want to meet him. It will hurt, but the pain can lead to a fairly rapid disposal of non-reciprocal feelings.
• "Let's just be friends." Say it only if you really want to maintain friendly relations with a man. However, be prepared for the fact that your friend is at times not very friendly to show sympathy to you and to remind about their feelings. However, it is possible that you will fall in love with yourself, when you know the person better.
• Explain the reasons. Some people do not realize when they just say "no." They need to know why you do not want to go on a date or to continue communication after a few visits. Again, no need to be rude to that person; usually the most honest enough to say what you are not satisfied with it.
• White lie. Unfortunately, sometimes it is better or easier to lie than tell the truth. For example, you can say that you already have a favorite person, or you are very busy with work and study, so that the relationship does not have the time.
• "The problem is not you, it's me." Of course, this is a very common form of failure, but it really works. Usually this phrase does not cause any problems, but very stubborn people can, despite everything, to offer "try" to meet and simultaneously deal with your internal problems.
• Be polite. No matter what kind of response you choose, you need to talk as much as possible polite. Failure in any case perceived painful, but you should try to soften the blow. At the same time, remember: when the love is not mutual, even the most hard failure is better than false hope.

How to get rid of non-reciprocal love

• Write down the reasons why you can not be together. Be honest, because you do not have anyone to show this record. Frankly and clearly write, for example, that a loved one you are denied (can be written on the form in which he did), he was married or you - not his type of woman. Re-read the list of reasons when you become particularly bad. It may be painful, but as you get rid of illusions: you will clearly understand why the relationship between you is not possible, and stop to feed unfounded hopes.
• Draw conclusions. Nevzaimnaya love - it is also an experience, even negative. Think about what lessons you should learn from this experience.
• Limit your contact with a loved one, if possible - eliminate it completely. If you work with or live in the neighborhood, make it can be difficult, but still try not to chat and meet with him unnecessarily. Do not browse its pages in social networks, do not ask who you, how he was doing, and delete his number from the phone book.
• Allow yourself to feel sad. Attempts to artificially raise the spirits only exacerbate depression, so allow yourself to feel sad and cry for a while. After a week or two the mood will improve by itself, and you will begin to enjoy life again.
• Do not chase the thought of it. These thoughts will appear from time to time, but do not try to drive - will only get worse. Let them present in your mind, but continue to go about their business, to focus on them, and once those extra thoughts cease to bother you.
• Do not sit at home. Communicate with different people, do something new, visit unfamiliar places; fresh impressions in large numbers - one of the best remedies for the pain that causes the nonreciprocal love.

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