For many people, office romance is something almost natural. After all, when and where to start a relationship, if the remaining time after the work is barely enough to sleep and a couple of workouts per week? In such conditions it is extremely difficult to meet someone and even more difficult to find time for dating. However, most singles want to find a soul mate, and they often find it among the people that constantly communicate at work.

The idea to start an office romance may seem very tempting. You will have an extra incentive to look good at work, boring meeting, you will get for the special urgency if they will be present the person with whom you feel something more than just a working relationship. You can come together to work together and leave, you know in advance that you have a lot in common, you will be something to talk about - in a word, solid idyll. But, unfortunately, office romances have both positive and negative sides.

Advantages of office romances

Positive aspects of office romances are pretty obvious .  Firstly, as we have said, relationship with colleagues can solve the problem of lack of privacy for people who spend at work sixty or more hours per week (or conventional forty hours and also spend a lot of time on the way to work and back) .  Second, it is convenient - why go to bars and parties in the search for potential Cavaliers or wasting time on dating sites, if your office many attractive and free men? Third, if you are a potential partner for a lot of communicating at work, it probably already had a good idea to know each other, and this will help to avoid many problems that are inevitable in a romantic relationship with people you barely know .  Finally, the office romance may be useful in the economic and environmental sense: if you and your partner will go to work on the same machine, you spend half the money on gasoline and at least slightly reduce the volume of exhaust gases, air pollutants planet .

Disadvantages of office romances

No matter how wonderful your novel develops with a colleague, the mere fact that you have spent many hours in the day, a close (and on the condition of living together you are practically inseparable), can lead to conflicts. You can not openly talk to colleagues about their problems in a relationship, because your words may reach the partner and it is possible that in a very distorted form. Particularly problematic are the novels between superiors and subordinates. In such a relationship both need to remember that the affair should not affect the work. It is unacceptable that an employee who has an affair with the boss, on this basis, to claim for themselves any favors or to the chief showed a special relationship to his beloved. This inevitably will cause an unhealthy atmosphere in the team.

Another factor that could lead to the collapse of office romance, jealousy is Management of jealousy . If a novel is not known to all employees (and in most cases are best avoided publicity), you have to be prepared for the fact that your partner will flirt girl who does not know that his heart is not free. As a flirt Flirting - this is serious   at work is commonplace, have to learn to look at it calmly.

However, the main disadvantages of official novels often appear only after their completion. If the separation is not passed peacefully too, there is a possibility that the former partner starts to intrigue against you, it may be relatively harmless, though unpleasant gossip about you and more or less successful attempts to ruin your career.

Tips for those who think to have an affair with a colleague

• Make sure that you deal with possible negative consequences. Think about the most unpleasant of what might happen in the event of your separation Parting: punctuation rules   with a colleague. You know how to handle it? If so, you can go out with him.
• Discuss the status of the relationship. Such conversations (the purpose is to find out how serious the relationship and what they want from both partners), people usually try to avoid, but if you have an affair with a colleague, it is necessary to clarify the status of the relationship as soon as possible. Talk about what you expect from the relationship, and how you behave at work, when they will end, and whether you will hide their relationship.
• Communicate with other colleagues. At the beginning of the novel is quite natural desire to constantly communicate with your loved ones, but such behavior would be too evident, moreover, could be affected by this relationship with other colleagues.
• Do not show their relationship. Even if about your novel already knows most of the staff, do not constantly hold the meeting together behind closed doors, kissing in the hallways and look at each other with loving eyes during negotiations. At work, you still have to behave to each other as colleagues only.
• Do not complain about your partner's colleagues. Praise can be (but then you should not go into the details), but complain definitely not worth it. Otherwise, your conflicts will become available to the whole team, and it is unlikely to affect the good relations.
• Spend time apart from each other. It is very difficult to always be close to someone, even if you love him very much. Therefore it is necessary to find time to meet with their friends and family, going to the gym, go about their hobbies and so on.
• If the novel is over, stay professional. Do not take out their resentment against the former lover to the public and do not try to take revenge on him, using their influence. Showdown at work is absolutely unacceptable, as difficult as you may be.

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