Love - this is one of the most important and least understood of the human senses. For most people, close ties with others are a necessity, and the loneliness and rejection cause pain and unconsciously perceived as a threat to survival. According to biological and cultural reasons, many people believe that a full and happy life they need a stable and lasting love relationship. But in reality, the psychology of love is that love does not always last long, and not always a strong affection for another person is love.

Love is different from passion or lust

While for most people the physical attraction is an important part of love relationships, love can not be identified with a passion. If passion and love were one and the same sex for one night and relationships without commitment, starting under the influence of ethyl alcohol or other substances, automatically would lead to a lasting relationship, and even marriage. Studies have shown that when a person experiences a passion, he has become more active areas of the brain related to motivation and reward; feelings of love activate areas that are associated with the care and the ability to empathize.

Love - this is a momentary feeling, and prolonged state of mind

Recent research suggests that people can start to feel love for each other during a brief association. If between them there is a strong sympathy, they begin to "otzerkalivat" not only facial expressions and gestures to each other, but also physiological rhythms - in particular synchronizes their heart. In this state, people sincerely empathize with each other, between them there is understanding, but it does not always lead to a serious relationship; Moreover, such a relationship can occur between people of the same sex. However, what happens to their consciousness, behavior and physiology is very similar to what is happening with the people who love each other and are made in the relationship. Of course, most people call love is only feeling associated with a certain type of relationship, but scientists say that a very similar feeling can occur between strangers.

Over the loving relationships to work

The researchers interviewed hundreds of couples, and found that those of them who believe their relationship happy, partners encourage the full development of each other, have always supported each other in difficult situations, and constantly taking something together - whether traveling or joint study foreign languages. On the other hand, in a less happy couples partners believed that the most important thing - it is love, and if it is, all the rest will follow by itself.

A person can develop their capacity to love

It was found that regular meditation Meditation and women's health   just a few months increases the activity of brain centers responsible for empathy and positive emotions, and make less active centers, which arises fear.

Love is not only in the head

Experts believe that love does not only affect the human brain, but also affects the whole body. The research results suggest that loneliness and lack of social connections reduces life expectancy as much as smoking. If a person is a member of any community - be it parish, or biker club - detrimental effects of loneliness Loneliness - this is not new, or why am I still alone?   It is significantly reduced. But even more useful for health is family life, especially for men: we know that married men are less likely to suffer from many chronic diseases, and the death of a spouse is a factor that increases the risk of early death. It is not clear what was going on: that a man due to his wife more or less well nourished and her insistence regularly visits the doctor, or the emotional connection between the couple.

Love - the feeling is not unconditional

One of the prerequisites for the emergence and preservation of love is a feeling of security and confidence. To a man there was an attachment to another, based on love and compassion, the prefrontal cortex of his brain must send a signal to the almond-shaped body - a sort of alarm center of the brain to turn off the response "fight or flight". People with childhood psychological trauma, and those of any age suffering from various forms of violence, can be difficult to turn off "alarm center" and trustworthy partner. This problem will help to cope psychologist or therapist, but sometimes it works and partners who have consistently demonstrated their concern by showing that he can be trusted, and next to him have nothing to fear.

Love is not necessarily eternal, but sometimes it can last forever

People change throughout life, and one may find that a partner - not the man in whom he or she is in love with a decade ago. Life experience is changing habits, way of thinking, beliefs and behavior. Someone able to continue to love your partner after all the changes, and someone - no; and that, and another is a variant of the norm. Anyway, only a small percentage of people in a few years the relations to their partners feel the same vivid, strong love, as in the beginning of a relationship.

Love does not have to be focused on one person or one your family

This is a fairly common mistake: a meeting of its sole or single, and creating a family, a person closes her, clearly dividing the world into "us" and all the rest. Meanwhile, psychologists say that most are healthy and harmonious people who can feel love for those who are not members of the family - it does not mean that they change their partners; they just do not close your heart to those who are "not our" easy to make new friends, and less likely to suffer from loneliness.

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