During the dialogue people constantly send and receive non-verbal signals. It is these signals are referred to as the language of gestures: hand movements, posture, facial expressions and so on. All these signals have a certain value, they continue to talk, even when a person does not say a word. Sign language lets you know whether your interlocutor is interesting what you say, how it applies to you, whether he spoke the truth, whether you trust, and so on.

If your non-verbal signals correspond to what you say, it inspires confidence and promotes mutual understanding. If not, the caller can begin to doubt or you feel uncomfortable, even if it is not very versed in sign language - many people subconsciously catch contradiction between verbal and nonverbal messages.

Options sign language

Sign language can perform five basic functions:

• Repeat or confirmation - when a person is telling the truth, his body language said simply repeats;
• Contradiction - a message in sign language may be contrary to what the man says;
• Substitution - nonverbal cues may replace the word. For example, sometimes view tells a lot more than a person could say with words;
• Accent - with the help of various gestures a person can highlight key points in his speech, and this is not always consciously. For example, if someone starts while talking drumming his fingers on the table, it may mean that the theme he touched, causing him concern, although perhaps he does not want to show it;
• Supplement. Finally, simple gestures can supplement said. For example, if a person praised you, and then patted the shoulder, so he supplemented his eulogy, and perhaps enhance its impact.

What should I look for

If you want to learn how to understand body language, start with the following manifestations observe non-verbal communication:

• Mimicry. The human face is very expressive, it can express many emotions, even when a person does not say a word. Unlike other forms of non-verbal communication, facial expression is universal: the representatives of different cultures show anger, sadness, happiness, surprise, disgust, the same facial expressions;
• Gait and posture. Note that the impact on your perception of people has the way they sit, walk, stand up, hold back. Posture and gait people can say a lot about his health, education, emotional state, the level of financial well-being;
• Gestures. Watching the body language, you must take into account the cultural characteristics: the same gestures for people from different countries can have different meanings;
• Eye contact. Watching how people maintain eye contact, will determine how it relates to his interlocutors how confident feeling, and much more;
• Touches. Learn to celebrate such nuances as strong or weak handshake, a gentle touch on the shoulder, patronizing pat on the head and so on. See and how people touch you - for example, he can clasp her arms as if trying not to lose self-control, insecure smooth hair Hair: structure, characteristics of growth and development   During a call, touch the lips;
• Space. So, how far a person is held by the interlocutor, how he reacts to the invasion of his personal space and how to respect the boundaries of personal space of others can talk about his sympathy for others, a tendency to dominance, aggressiveness, sociability and isolation. Remember, however, that the magnitude of the boundaries of personal space largely depends on cultural differences.
• Speech. It is important not only so that says a man, but as he says. Notice the tone of voice, rate of speech, pauses between words, as a human voice accents when he begins to speak louder, and when - quieter.
• Pay attention to the controversy. If you think that the words a person says one thing and the other gestures - perhaps he was lying. Although it happens in cases when a person is simply not sure what he was saying, or try too hard to make a good impression.
• Learn to see the whole picture. It is not enough to interpret a gesture to create a clear picture of the psychological state of the person. Conclusions can be made only on the basis of how to relate to gestures, tone of voice, posture, gait and other nuances of each other.

  

Sign language is almost impossible to lie

Unsure person may know how to sit, walk, stand, shake hands, talk, look to look like a confident person. However, all this does not work, because it is impossible to constantly monitor all the manifestations of non-verbal communication - however, maybe this person will be able to mislead the people are not very observant. But in most cases, people notice if someone is trying to appear so what is not, and the more he tries, the more it looks unnatural.

The only way to improve non-verbal communication - learn to control stress. Under the influence of stress people can send to others contradictory, misleading nonverbal cues. On the contrary, if a person is well in control of himself and stay calm in difficult situations, his body language will correspond to what he says (of course, provided that he is telling the truth). If you want to take a break during a call to put my thoughts in order and to calm down when you obderet emotional balance, your communication, both verbal and non-verbal, will be more effective.

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