Wedding looks much more solemn and more attractive, than a simple signature in the registry office, it is a fact. In the first case - a solemn the atmosphere of an Orthodox church, candles, gilded iconostasis, sonorous voice priest, crowns over the heads of the bride and groom; In general, the grace. Well, in the second - an ordinary place, like in a store, a formal procedure, It takes no more than 10 minutes and is usually carried out with indifference, tired woman with hairstyles, at best, a la 80s, at worst - a la the 70s. It would seem, the answer that it is preferable to start for a beautiful, romantic and remembers the beginning of marriage, is obvious - of course, the wedding! Answered the question? Everybody is happy? And now we will consider this issue seriously and carefully.

First of all, let's start with the fact that the approach to the procedure Registration entry into marriage at the registry office and to the wedding with the same criteria can not be. It is because of the fact that in the registry office, we are dealing with the procedure, and if the wedding takes place sacrament, just as significant and important as, say, the sacraments of baptism, or Communion. So you can not look at a wedding as beautiful ceremony.

The trouble is that a considerable number of the intending spouses simply are not believers. After the Soviet collapse in our country sharply psevdopravoslavie drew fashion, that is, the number of external performance Orthodox sacraments and religious rites. You said that need to be baptized? Well Well, now we will be baptized with the convenient and inconvenient case - no matter what baptized the wrong hand and not in the other side, the main thing to be in the fashion jet. They said they need at least sometimes go and see the temple? Okay, a couple of times a year (usually at Christmas and Easter) zabezhit for five minutes in the church, most certainly buy a large candle, we ask the grandmothers church where her poke safely tknёm and with a sense of religious deed committed retire home. They say when marriage should be married? Generally great - found a pretext for an additional next feast. Such are the believers of us ...

So, if you have a strong desire to marry, you need to find out whether the bride and groom baptized. Of course, the question priest before the wedding, baptized you and your partner, you can answer "yes", knowing full well that in fact "no." Check it out documented the priest there is no way he will believe your word. Here are just a should think about the fact that the priest can deceive, God is not fooled. Yet there is already decide for themselves everyone should.

It is also worth thinking about the fact that a wedding means something you first of all before God witnesses that you have chosen yourself someone who will be your companion for life. And with that person you will share everything, everything, everything, and you understand and agree with this. And then, you agree that (again, not only to the people) to keep the love and what not Equally important, patience in dealing with this person. And so on, and all in the as far real hard way.

If that does not scare you and do not stop and you continue to consider the wedding a beautiful design and an ordinary marriage believe that, like marriage, the wedding will not be a hindrance in the case, If you cease to please the spouse, you will have to disappoint you. For people crowned there can be grounds for divorce, which is sufficient for termination of an ordinary marriage. Here you will not be able to separate "by mutual consent ", as nobody will debunk and arguments like" did not agree characters, "" I do not like it anymore, "" I met a man who I I liked more, "and the like. The wedding means choosing the person on all my life, period. At the same time, of course, there are situations in life when which the Church admits the occurrence of one of the spouses the right to terminate crowned marriage. For example, in the case of proven fact of adultery Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself?   or the loss of one of the spouses mental health. However, even in these extreme cases, said only that the spouse has the right to divorce, but not that he is obliged to do so.

There is another argument of the supporters of ripening weddings. At this time, this argument has psevdopravoslavnye roots. Believers people who are not too familiar with the theological principles of their own faith, somehow absolutely convinced that unwedded marriage (ie officially registered in the registry office, but not backed by the mystery of the wedding) to the position Christianity and this is not a marriage, but there is a kind of prodigal life. And to this "fornication" avoided Suite is required to drive in Church (usually the initiative comes from parents and grandparents) - to have say, to err.

So "experts" Orthodoxy, if they are too busy to carefully read Sacred Tradition, and it is easier to believe superstitions should be advised to read the white paper titled "Social Concept of the Russian Orthodox Church. " And in this "concept" is written in black and white, that Orthodox perspective officially registered marriage, albeit the secular, is a real, full-fledged marriage and fornication is not any. Sacrament of the wedding does not make a real marriage, it is intended through the voluntary Rite win for the fate of people connecting their divine help in the difficult and full of trials and temptations of married life.

Of course, for the believer the question of whether married or not, by and large it is not necessary. If you really believe in God, then you not refuse his help. But if you call yourself a believer himself can not, and if you're not sure what this man you want to grow old together, and at the same time tolerate it for decades, with all its flaws and quirks, rush to the wedding is not necessary. Fashion fashion, prejudices prejudices, traditions tradition - but when it comes to your life and the divine, you need to think much more serious categories. AT Otherwise, the consequences will be serious.

Alexander Babitsky

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