Hardly anyone would deny the importance and value of order and discipline. To grow a full-fledged member of society, the child must know what discipline is, and understand how to behave in certain situations. Unruly wayward children are not uncommon, the number of children regularly test the patience of the parents is enormous. Unfortunately, there is no magic bullet or method that would be made as soon as possible of your child's a good boy.

If your children refuse to listen to what you say the word "discipline" to these empty words, how to get the child to obey, without playing the role of evil and violence at an early overseer?

Encourage good behavior

For some parents the essence of discipline is punishment for any offense under this approach, they often disregard the good behavior of their child. In this case, using the infamous stick can achieve much more than using a hypothetical whip. Encouraging good behavior of the child, the more you focus most of its attention on the positive aspects, the behavior that you would like to see the child, and not on how to do it should not.

It is also very important not to overreact, policies to promote not mean that you have to give your child a pound of chocolate every time he picks up from the floor a paper clip or some small thing. In politics, too, there are encouraging their levels. If a child is removed in my room, I praise him, tell him that it is well done, and you're glad he did it himself. But there are things for which not a sin to reward the child and something more than a kind word.

Set clear rules

If your child requirements are vague and submitted for discussion only when a particular rule is broken, the child is difficult to grasp exactly what was wanted of him, and to what extent it should comply with these rules. Rules of Conduct set is the parents, they should make it clear to your child how he should behave in a given situation and what he should not do. Try to explain clearly the rights of the child, but do not do it when your son or daughter is upset or depressed.

Instilling the concept of child discipline, you are also able to benefit from this process. For example, if you turned out to be a break, do not be afraid to distract the child from the game, tell them you need help. If your child stops the game and will help you do what you have planned and thanking Release son or daughter to play. If such a request is hysterical, you have to be patient. Repeat such requests from time to time and eventually the child must understand that, if my mother says it, it means you need to put aside the toys and do what they say.

Do not engage in debate

How to cope with a child who argues with you, at all costs trying to get their way? Try to avoid a losing argument. For example, if a child feels that your attitude is unfair, just say "I know", on the assertion that all his friends have one or the other thing, and it does not, it is possible to give the same answer. If your requirement or rule has been discussed previously, firmly remind your child that you have already talked to him and his decision is going to change. Sometimes the less we talk, the clearer we make clear what we actually want from your opponent.

Take time out

You probably have heard that the children should understand and feel the consequences of what they do, and as soon as possible. But there is also the view that parents should not lose self-control and communicate with the child in a calm tone. In fact, it is not always possible to restrain their emotions and to react to the actions of his child.

Do not hurry to make a decision immediately, calm down and give yourself time to think. Tell your child that you have time to deal with the situation. Controlling your emotions, first of all, show your child that you understand it, and then specify as to what the consequences might be his act. Thus, your son or daughter will have time to think about their behavior and understand what it can lead. Do not yell at children who are not raining down on them all the anger. Let them know that this is their problem.

Be consistent and firm in their demands

Sometimes it is not easy to follow the rules, not only for children but also for their parents. Many parents make concessions if children begin to pretend or to contest their claims. Very often the parents themselves are not enough to insist on respect for their rules. If your requirements are clearly outlined, and often changing, automatically all that you say questioned. Children will never understand what exactly want from them, if they do not have a clear idea of ​​what is required of them parents.

Perhaps you are afraid that their rigor you deprive a child of joy. Believe me, in fact, discipline and limitations for the benefit of the child. The established rules and procedures give the child a sense of confidence, a feeling that parents take care of it. Over time, you can move to a more flexible policy. At the age of 9-12 years old children can be given more freedom than before, but do not forget about the safety and health of the child.

Be a good example to follow

Whether we like it or not, our children look up to us. You can give your child thousands of tips, but your personal example affects his behavior and attitude to the world is much more than all your words. First of all, the child learns something, imitating their parents and the people who surround him. If you want your child to be honest, be honest with yourself. Your good manners will serve as a worthy example for others to follow, be polite, not only in public, but at home, and your child will grow polite and well-mannered.

Children - not an easy process. Even if you give your child all the time, in this way you will inevitably encounter difficulties and problems. As parents, we strive to ensure that our children are grown and bred honest, it's incredibly hard work, but for loving moms and dads is the most pleasant job.

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