Approximately 10% of women have never received an orgasm - either during masturbation or sex with a partner. Few of them are turning to a specialist, and in vain - the doctor could tell them the good news: any healthy woman can get an orgasm.

The first and most important lesson on the way to a full sexual life is to create a balance between tension and relaxation during sexual activity. Someone is the ability to seem given initially, but someone has to learn this - it's not easy, but quite feasible.

Stress

The most important kind of stress, which helps a woman get an orgasm - it is muscle tension .  Among the many women a common misconception that during intercourse, they need to just relax and lie down, waiting for the fun to come .  In fact, relaxation is very important - we'll talk about a little later .  However, apart from that orgasm is necessary for muscle tension .  Most women manage to get his first body after they learn to use during intercourse, pelvic floor muscles .  This is not surprising, because women who have no problems with orgasm, said that in moments of greatest pleasure most strongly reduced these muscles .  What is the relationship between muscle tension and orgasm? Excitation .  Tension pelvic floor muscles increases blood flow to the genitals, thereby increasing the likelihood that a woman get an orgasm .  Therefore, women who have never experienced an orgasm, can be very useful Kegel exercises .  They should be performed several times a day, for 5-10 minutes at a time; deliberately strain the pelvic floor muscles need during intercourse - which, incidentally, can be fun, not only the woman but also her partner .

Relaxation

What part of the body responsible for relaxation? Of course, the brain. During intercourse, the woman should focus only on their feelings and forget about everyday affairs. The inability to relax is one of the main reasons why one in ten women can not get an orgasm.

Imagine a large video screen on which left floating words, and then disappear. Many experts recommend to their patients who complain of not a lack of satisfaction in the sexual sphere, during intercourse to provide such a screen on which float the same simple words, such as "I feel very well." This mental exercise makes the brain distracted by extraneous thoughts, and helps to tune in on the fun. Most of the women who manage to during sex, strain the pelvic floor muscles and relax, clearing the mind from extraneous thoughts, pretty soon begins to regularly receive orgasms.

Masturbation

Perhaps you have heard that the one who can not get an orgasm on their own are unlikely to get it by having sex with a partner. While you're doing Kegel exercises Kegel exercises: why should they perform   and learn to relax, be very useful to get to know your body and do what is rarely discussed and usually unnecessarily euphemistically - that is, masturbation .  Get an orgasm during masturbation is not enough - even for those who have never had an orgasm, this in itself will be an event .  In addition, it is important to remember, as it responds to your body that you are able to explain in detail the partner exactly how to get you from point A to point B (more precisely, D) .  Do not be afraid to experiment: your task - as much as possible to know their sexuality .  Forget modesty, about the fact that you once talked about decent and indecent - many taboos are often the cause of frigidity (usually imaginary) .  Do whatever you want - it's your body and learn to use it to enjoy - your right .  Remember that the bed is not the place of the complex - no matter where you are alone, or together with someone .

Talk with your partner

When you understand what gives you pleasure, you will tell your partner. First, talk to him frankly, but gently, that he has not decided if you think it does a poor lover Lover: the real situation . Second, explain to him in detail how and what to do. Simple directions such as "right," "left," "higher," "lower" is not enough. Tell us what you like pressure force, which is the movement (for example, circular or left-right), a rhythm of movement, and so on. Do not miss any details; As an option, you can show your partner that he has to do. Again: do not hesitate - it all contributes to the excitement and brings together partners, so do not be afraid to be frank.

Create an atmosphere

Experiment with music, lighting, furnishings, and so on. You need to create an atmosphere of sensuality in which both of you will be comfortable. If you are not very satisfied with their body, do not turn on a bright light. If a slow, romantic music you get to sleep rather than excited, include more upbeat music. And, of course, do not forget about the smells and beautiful lingerie.

Take your time

To obtain orgasm, man requires on average 10 minutes, and a woman - 15-20 minutes. So long prelude for a woman - not a whim but a necessity. The habit of having sex in a hurry - is another common reason for the lack of orgasm for many women. Explain this to your partner in the future, remember that it takes time to enjoy.

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