In almost every woman's life there comes a moment when she realizes that he wants to marry - even though she had never dreamed of marriage and white dress and a hundred guests can still perhaps that dream into a nightmare. Sooner or later the dream of constant, reliable partners and cozy family nest begin to even the least romantic person for whom the phrase girlfriend "looking for a husband," it is unclear who love their work, travel, and tend to be self-sufficient in everything; exceptions, of course, is there, but not very much.

Where to begin

What do you do when you realize that your life is not enough men - the one that will be there permanently, not from time to time?

• Admit it. First of all, we must recognize - even if only in front of you - that you really want to get married. This may be difficult if you have many years told all his friends that the marriage you do not need and in general this phenomenon is hopelessly out of date. You used to think so, and now - no, and that's fine. People change, and to deny the changes taking place within yourself - then acquire serious psychological problems. So tell yourself - yes, I want to get married and is ready to look for a potential husband. It does not hurt you to remain strong and independent woman - it just means that your life has a new need.
• Look around. Maybe your potential spouse is very close? For example, in the category of men who are commonly referred to as "just friends"? What are not you are not smitten with a passion for them at first glance, does not mean that they can not become good husbands. Maybe you're just not communicate with them, to see their strengths? In any case, look at their surroundings is - if you do not find your destiny, or at least will know for sure that it is necessary to expand the range of the search.
• Change your habits .  If you decide that you do not have friends among your men that you could be seen as potential husbands, expand the circle of acquaintances .  Enroll in any course (of course, this should not be something purely feminine) Get active (eg, rafting or skydiving - a great opportunity to meet many interesting people of both sexes), go to the gym and swimming pool .  It is necessary to spend more time in places where you've never been before - in addition to nightclubs and bars where one can hardly meet her future husband, although there are exceptions everywhere .  The main thing - do not do it just because you wanted to get married .  Seeker think women are not attracted to men too .  To do what you like, in the company of others - the common interests are combined, like nothing else .  In addition, the person easier to evaluate when it's busy business than when he sits in front of you at a table in a restaurant, trying to put myself in the best possible light .  In short, try a new - if you do not find a husband, then your life will be much brighter .
• Decide on the desires and be realistic .  You know, for a man you want to marry? Really you know? Before all of searching for a spouse and thinking about marriage, you need to understand what you want from a potential husband - what qualities he should have, and what you can really count .  Do you dream of kind, gentle, caring? And what do you mean by these? Some overly caring people can stifle their concern - this, incidentally, is not so rare .  And if you want your husband was wealthy - are you ready for the fact that he will come home only to sleep and then go to work? Wealthy people are usually very busy schedule .  Those who wish to find a very intelligent man, should think about whether they would meet him .  If the husband degree in biochemistry, he will be bored with a woman whose knowledge in the natural sciences are limited to the school program, and then - half-forgotten .  Finally, we should not expect that the man certainly will love you for who you are, completely unaware of your shortcomings .  In fact, marriage - a constant work that requires a willingness to change partners .  If you're not ready for this, think again whether you really want to get married .

What qualities to look for in a potential spouse

A list of these qualities in different women may be different, but in most cases it looks like this:

• The ability to listen. Just listen, and do not analyze and solve problems. Women need to be heard and understood, and the men, heard about the problem, immediately beginning to offer options for its solutions. In addition, some men treat women's issues a little bit down. So the ability to listen to - an important quality of a potential spouse.
• Emotional stability. There are men with such a character that it seems they only accidentally born men. Women's ulterior motive draws strength, independence, and ability to control their emotions - a man with such qualities it can be a reliable partner, breadwinner, protector. If a man is nervous about trifles, often scandals and every day finds something to complain about, it is unlikely to be a worthy partner in life.
• Confidence. Confident man (not to be confused with self-confidence) adequately behaves as in public and in the circle of close friends, and quickly focused in difficult situations without panicking or losing control over himself. With such a man a woman, too, begins to feel confident. To see whether a man self-confident, or just trying to pretend to be macho Macho: errors and problems in behavior , Compare its behavior at home and in public places. If you think that these are two different people, of this confidence can not be considered. Another important point - jealousy Management of jealousy . The most jealous are the least confident men. If a man sure of himself, he would not stoop to suspicion and betrayal written search features Treason: Fall or loyalty to yourself?   scratch.
• Responsibility. Women are attracted to men who know how to take responsibility for their actions and decisions. Such men are good hosts home, husbands, and fathers. In addition, such a man would be an excellent example for their future children.
• Honesty. Marry is just the person to whom you trust. Otherwise, life together will certainly be spoiled omissions and suspicions.
• Respect (especially his mother). Perhaps you've heard more than once that a man will treat his wife well, as it relates to his mother. So be sure to take a look at their relationships before deciding on marriage. If he behaves disrespectfully to his mother, he hardly will respect you.

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