The mistress of a married man - it is not uncommon nowadays. Love, as we know, comes unexpectedly; it can be the most wonderful feeling in the land, but often this feeling visit us at the wrong time, or can be directed to the wrong person. The married men fall in love, even women who have always been opposed to relationships with men who are married; Still I love - a natural feeling, difficult to control the mind, and especially - at the beginning, while it is particularly strong. If this happens to you, first of all, do not blame yourself.

At least one woman in the world dreams of falling in love with a married man? Probably not, but that is because a lot of married men, besides, some of them when meeting may hide their marital status.

Answering these questions will help the following facts to be aware of every mistress of a married man:

• The needs of his family for him will always be more important than your needs. That is, you will not be the main person in his life. He can say what I think about you every moment, but it will not help you to move or repair the weekend, because he needs to spend time with your family without a lift you to the airport at six, easily override long-scheduled meeting with you if suddenly there were some family matters, and did not even come to the hospital where you are lying with a broken leg when he dines at this time with the parents of his wife ... he probably did not even respond to your call. A married man will not be for you the man who will help you deal with problems; Of course, it is something you support and help, but only on condition that it does not come at the expense of his family.
• Your life will always be his secret. He did not introduce you to friends, and even more so - with their parents, it will not be familiar with your friends (just in case - because the world is so small), and walking with you on the street, or dinner at a restaurant, he would sneak look to make sure that there is no close friends. Traces of your stay in his car (hair, lipstick, perfume) will be destroyed, and your phone number, he is likely to will write under some man's name.
• He will not leave his wife. And if they leave - you will have good reason to doubt that you want to be with this man. The vast majority of married men who have mistresses, still remain with their wives. Besides - as many men can talk about lack of intimacy with his wife, but he will almost certainly continue to have sex with her at the time, as occurs with you.
• You have not got it right. That is, you have no right to anything required of him. It is pointless to blame him for the fact that he pays little attention to you, you do not have enough of his support, and so on. On the other hand, he also has no right to demand something from you, so you may well be - and should - look around and notice the other men around him.
• Holidays Alone Loneliness - this is not new, or why am I still alone?   - A sad reality for the mistress of a married man. He may even ask you not to call him during the holidays, because he spends it with his family, and calls from an unknown woman can cause his wife's questions.

Tips mistresses of married men

• Do not agree at any time to change their plans, only to see him

This error committed many mistresses, and justified by the fact that the man and so hard to find time to meet and, therefore, they should always be ready to leave the party, cancel the training session or postpone his meeting with friends, if a loved suddenly called and said, he wants to see you in half an hour. As a result, you can not remain only without relations (sooner or later, they will almost certainly end parting), but without friends. Do not sacrifice friendship, their own hobbies and socializing with relatives for the sake of a man who hardly ever connect his life with you.

• Remember his family

Of course, his wife and children men - strangers to you people, but it's worth trying to imagine myself in their place. Despite the fact that men do not take away from the family, and they leave themselves part of the responsibility for the breakdown of the family - if it happens - will lie to you. Are you ready for this? And most importantly - you are ready to build a relationship with a man, remembering that he had already thrown one family? Of course, the reasons for the change and divorce are very different, but in any case, it is worth considering when deciding whether you need to continue the relationship with a married man.

• Do not, under any circumstances, contact with his family

For most women, this is obvious, but some of his mistress still trying to make contact with women and sometimes with other family members, their loved ones, to accelerate the process of withdrawal from a family man. It will only lead to conflict in the family of man, and the fact that he is likely to decide to cease the relationship with his mistress. Maybe it's for the best, but it is better to end the relationship less dramatic ways.

• Set the time for their relationship

Perhaps the best advice for the mistress of a married man is: throw it by offering to call if he ever divorced (but not expect that this really happens). However, it is not easy to do, because the feeling is difficult to control. So you should allow yourself some time to enjoy these feelings - say, three months or six months - and promise yourself that you leave after that unless a man has not filed for divorce. You should not tell him about this decision, and in general as a push to divorce: it should be his personal decision.

• When it was time to leave - Leave Your

Do not let himself and his "overtime", hoping that in two months could happen that did not happen in six months.

In it, you can not believe it, but then you risk a few years later to discover that your beloved is still not married to you, that you also celebrate the holiday alone, do not call it a weekend ... In short, nothing has changed, but your relationship has become a habit, a part of your comfort zone, get out of that can be more difficult than at the beginning, when feelings were bright, but not rooted in your soul. After parting Parting: punctuation rules   stop all contacts with the man - do not call him, did not answer his calls, do not try to "accidentally" meet him in places where he appears regularly. Ideally, you need to change your phone number and to block it in social networks - in short, to make you nothing reminds of the novel ended.

• Give yourself a "recover"

The realization that you are doing the right thing by stopping the relationship does not mean that you will not be hurt. It will, and it will take several months before you let go of his feelings. Do not suppress the pain, talk about it, let yourself cry. Do not try to knock out fire with fire, and immediately seek a relationship with another man. Stay alone, analyze the relationship ended, decide what relationships you want in the future, and look more broadly at all what you want from the future? Perhaps the separation will give a boost to major changes in life. For example, you've always wanted to go to another country, but simmering feelings will not let? Now is the time to change your life the way you want, in addition, a change of scenery - the perfect cure for a broken heart Broken Heart: Steps to recovery .

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