The answer to the question "do you have any friends? "Most people seem simple and obvious - until such time as they wonder what is friendship? Add the person to your friends list on Facebook - it means to make friends? Or friends - it meets on Thursdays at the club with the same interests? Probably everyone will tell you that this is not enough for friendship. The ratio could be called friendship, they must attend certain key elements - more important than social networking, and even the existence of common interests.

Friendship - is always a reciprocal relationship

Friendship, unlike love, can not be a non-reciprocal. To friendship relations were indeed at least two members must consider relations with each other as friends. Here there may be a certain kind of complexity, because different people have different understandings of what friendship. Someone begins to trust new friends almost instantly and finds all his friends, whose society is more or less enjoyable. Such people may consider someone your friend as long as it turns out that it does not mutual. Other behave friendly, but can be a long time to look closely to the man before he will trust. So people need to learn how to be a new acquaintance, before starting to think about whether we can consider relations arising friendship. But some people have a lot of friends, and they just do not consider another friend as another friend.

Usually, that person considers you his friend, the following facts:

• He just told you about it, or other people you represent, as a friend;
• He showed you any services - not necessarily very significant, but which do not normally unfamiliar and not very meaningful to people;
• It is sincerely interested when you talk about your life;
• I meet you somewhere other than the place where you met with this - he regularly offers to meet.

If all of the same make and you probably can talk about friendship - or, at least, of her birth.

Harmonious relations

To you feel when you are dealing with a man? Do you miss it when you do not Think a few days or weeks? Can you share with him both good and bad news?

If a person you really binds friendship, you should be good together. This does not mean that you constantly have fun and relax, but a true friend even in difficult times it becomes easier. A friend is not trying to pressure you, and to raise their self-esteem at your expense. A true friend can show you your weaknesses, or to tell you that in any situation you were wrong, but he would do it without humiliating you. A person who constantly strikes at your self-esteem, can not be a friend.

If you can say with confidence that your relationship is dominated by someone that you do not communicate on equal terms - most likely, it is not about friendship. Friends always communicate on an equal basis; relationship, when one speaks almost constantly, and the other - listening, one provides services, and the other only accepts them, are not really friendly, although very common, and sometimes the participants, apparently, everyone happy. However, the friendship - it's always a harmonious relationship of people willing to take into account each other's interests, and not "pull the blanket over himself."

Friends - people who meet regularly

In this age of computer technology it is not all a matter of course, but in order to start a real friendship, the real need of the meeting: walk, joint travel, attend events, and so on .  You can not learn how to be a man, talking to him only in the network - even with the camera and microphone .  Friendship is born and is fixed in real-life situations that may arise, unless you go somewhere together (in the mountains, for example, or at least just wander around the city) .  The more you will experience together, the better to know each other - sometimes a person's behavior in a real situation says more about it than communication on the Internet for several months .  The friendly relations nothing can replace real human interaction, so that all who know you only communicate online, can be attributed only to network friends - they can become real, but to begin with they need to meet live .

Signs of healthy friendships

• Honesty. With friends you can confide. They do not need to pretend, because they really take you with all your flaws, which sometimes know more than you. They will not tell you unpleasant truths just to hurt you, but I never really utayat you to important information. This implies and frank discussion of controversial moments - friends do not be afraid to tell you that they do not agree with you. They discuss and argue, to understand the situation and not accumulating resentment, move on.
• Widening the circle of communication. People who associate healthy friendships do not spend all their free time together; they learn, communicate with other people, and it does not cause conflicts between friends. They can go to rest in the different countries and with different people, and going to different concerts, while remaining true friends. Friends should not restrict the circle of friends to each other - it is one of the important features of harmonious friendship.
• Respect boundaries. Each person must always remain a private space in which he has every right to exclude anyone. A true friend will not insist on the fact that it allowed in this space.
• Trust. If you are sure you can tell a person about anything, and it will always be among you - this man is probably your true friend. As you know, very hard to earn the trust and lose - simple. Between these friends a question of trust, in general, not even worth it: it is a matter of course. They do not have to ask each other questions like "do you not tell anyone? ". A true friend - do not tell. Because the loss of trust, as well as the loss of friendship, can not be compensated by anything.

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