Most people believe that love calls all and when between two people there is a sense of the differences between them are insignificant. However, those who felt the unequal marriage, who had to live in a marriage with a partner who is much less or more or which makes a big difference in age, often less optimistic. They know from experience that sometimes a harmonious relationship of love is not enough, and when feeling a little cool, the differences between the partners will inevitably make themselves felt.

Inequality in income

Imagine that spouse for the year, together earn a sum equivalent to one hundred thousand dollars. Both work long hours, it is important for both to have their own source of income, both appreciate the opportunity to make purchases without the consent of the spouse, invest in a common household. But who among them will be free to shop and who how much money should be invested in maintaining the overall economy, if one spouse earns thirty thousand dollars a year, and the other - the seventy? To some it may seem that when it comes to marriage, such questions are irrelevant at all - because the couple everything in common. In fact, in today's world, many people are getting married, they try to maintain their independence - including financial ones.

The problems that often arise in a marriage of people with very different levels of income:

• Guilt - a partner who earns less. Most likely, you work as much and your spouse; In addition, women (and often they earn less) perform much of the work around the house. However, most of the loan pays the husband, who is also often pays for joint vacation, and without his knowledge can not make a more or less large purchases.
• Resentment - with a spouse who earns more. It may appear, for example, when a partner spends money on is not very necessary things and can not invest in the general budget enough money. As a rule, resentment at such occasions suppressed, people may even reproach himself for such feelings, but it can against his will manifest itself in reckless words and actions. In addition, people who earn more, often think that they are working more partners and on this basis can take on fewer household responsibilities.
• The fight for the reign. Anyone who earns more often takes Beret - a symbol of French charm   on the role of head of the family is not always mindful of the need to consider the opinion of the partner. In extreme cases, this leads to the fact that the spouse with the higher income does not allow her to spend half of the money for their needs under the pretext that it is, and so contributes to the family budget too little money, and a fully passed on to all of her household duties.
• Divorce, in some cases it becomes a natural result of the above problems.

  

Methods to resolve the problems of income inequality

• Discuss problems before they occur. On the possible problems associated with different income levels, should talk before marriage. You also need to talk about all the unpleasant feelings that you are experiencing in this regard at the time of marriage. For example, if you feel guilty about the fact that earn less than the spouse, talk to him about it.
• Make a budget. Determine how much money each of you will be put to the general budget, how much money each spouse should remain at its own costs, and so on.
• Hold meetings about your overall budget. This should be done when there is no problem, but regularly, such as once a week or twice a month.
• Keep track of your expenses (internet bank greatly simplifies this task), plan to purchase in the near future and so on.
• Properly allocate chores. For example, if your spouse is working fifty hours a week, and you - twenty-five hours, he can spend on housework for 50% less time than you. But if both of you are working forty hours a week, household chores you must accrue equally, no matter which one of you earns significantly more than others.
• Do not forget that you - a team. Questions material gain should never be more important than the interests of the family. If one spouse is not more concerned about the welfare of the partner, and about how much of his income he gives to the common fund, you need to think seriously about how healthy is the climate in your family.

Big difference in age

The age difference - a very relative concept. For example, the difference between people who are ten and twenty-five years in terms of intellectual and physical development is enormous, and the relationship between them is unthinkable. And the difference between people in the age of thirty and forty-five years is not so great. In mathematical terms it is all the same for fifteen years, but these people can communicate on an equal footing, and the romance between them is quite normal. What if the partners, and fifty and seventy-five years? The difference again increases slightly - due to age-related changes that may affect the scope of both sexual and cognitive functions of humans. Despite this, there are many couples with a difference at the age of fifteen to twenty years or more who live quite happily.

Thanks to modern medicine and healthy way of life, a person can remain active into old age and look good. So whether or not to link their lives with a partner who is much younger or you? The answers are not following questions will help make the right decision:

• Do between you and your partner more than just sexual attraction? If not, after fifty or sixty years of age difference can lead to the collapse of relations.
• Do you like to spend time with the representatives of the age group to which it belongs to your partner? And he likes to communicate with people of your age? If not, you can give each other freedom, it is necessary that each of you can continue to keep in touch with your friends?
• Are you ready for the fact that your partner can develop serious illness, and you have to take care of him, though, you might at that time have not even retire?
• Are you ready to make compromises? They will cover not only the social life (for example, to communicate with relatives), but also the joint travel, work and rest, even a selection of films for the joint review.

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