Contact with the "inner child" in each of us is very important. So, at least, say psychologists. They are advised to listen to yourself, at-SLN-shih-vat-Xia, take a deep breath and keep a leisurely conversation with the subconscious. They say they need to be more attentive to her, to understand what you want. but we rarely heed this advice useful. Most often we do not listen to ourselves, we ourselves ignore. We too busy to engage in this nonsense kind of self-knowledge. We have too much free time to do the real "adult stupidity." And the "inner child" You can throw the game in the "headscarf" at lunchtime, even fun.

This approach is logical, but if it is constructive?

For each event in the child's life - a fascinating game. Before Ever since then, while the adults will not convince him otherwise. When the child of growing up, it begins to perceive the world adequately, that is, from the standpoint of reason. The child loses an irrational belief in a miracle, in an accident in an unexpected gift fate under the Christmas tree or somewhere else. He does not expect miracles, is preparing to obvious. He becomes more and more difficult to be surprised. Is this good? Depends on points of view.

If you need a planned world where everything is laid out on shelves - you're wrong planet. Here lurk behind every corner variegated surprises. The child perceives them safely, adults reconstructed complex.

He loses his footing when problems arise in the work or personal life is not going well. The child, seeing this as a surprise the game without experiencing and easily switches Looking forward: what next?

Hence the advice number one. Be left to stand too long, and varies with the world, not allowing him to put you into a blind alley. If a familiar reality It cracked and exposed something unfamiliar, and let the world zazhmurte take care of you, then feel free to step into the unknown. Do not cling to old habits of the people who have to leave. This excess baggage, and waiting for you exciting game. Forward!

Tip number two. Adults come up in games and win defeat. They divided the world into winners and loosers. The winner Takes It All, the loser feels miserable. Have you ever paid attention to how played by very young children? They do not compete and enjoy the process. The loser does not hurt, the winner did not turn up their noses. Try treat the game calmly victory - is not yet the end result. More importantly the fact games. In the end, the unpredictability of fate is just that it is very difficult pinpoint fortunate.

Most of the "adult" nonsense - victory at any cost. We fight for something important, we have an opponent. This is a good game! It's a game Tricks with mandatory win only one of the parties. And in this there is no winner harmony, balance .. And no one who is now won at such a price, be sure to get a return butt perpetrated injustice. Do not seek any means prevail. Otherwise the day will come the realization that the result is not cost.

Tip three: never rush, plunging headlong into eternal fuss.
One of the Japanese wisdoms is: "When in a hurry, stop to see cherry blossoms. " Maybe we need to stop and remember that the earth is constantly spinning. Time is running out. If we rotate around its axis in the same furious rate that limitless variety of the world will remain in our heart?

Tip four: do not get "hooked" to the infinite perfectionism.
When an adult is aware that all of it - it is a great game, it ceases to believe in yourself. Instead, he begins to imagine what should be what it wants to see more. Man grows its own "Steepness", seeking to accommodate all the needs of the surrounding world.

"The ideal perfection, top, pattern, dream, unrealizable desire" - same. The ideal - the perfection, which has no limit. We try to requirements imposed by the society to bring to the absolute, all on running away from their the true desires of your dreams from his childhood.

Is it time to remember what you really want? Remember what has long sought, when the world was friendlier, when the sky was deeper, the sun - brighter. Is life to which you yourself have taught, a dream come true? Maybe play another game and a little change of scenery? Maybe the problem - not trouble, but simply signals that it is time for a change?

Anastasia Krainer

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